Weaning is hard

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  1. Last week we stopping nursing. DD is 2.5. She'd been telling me for a while that there was no more milk, so I figured it was time. It's been going reasonably well; she'd ask to nurse and I'd remind her that there's no more milk. She'd pout a bit, but move on.

    We were down to two or three times a day -- wake up, nap time (if we were home) and bedtime. Wake up has always been a marathon -- she wakes up early, so we'd go back to my bed and nurse. Sometimes, we fell back asleep, but usually, she would nurse on and off for an hour or so.

    For naps, she would nurse to sleep, but it was getting ridiculously hard for me to detach and leave.

    Bedtime was the easiest -- ten minutes or so and she'd go into the crib for the time. She's been sttn since she's one (she slept with me before that).

    Anyway, the past two days have been horrible and today she cried for 15 minutes at nap time begging to nurse. It was heartbreaking and I was at a total loss for what to do. Part of me really wanted to lift my shirt, but I know it will make it that much harder.

    We had no issues tonight before bed. She didn't even mention it.

    So, this made me rethink whether or not I really want to wean. I'm not getting any pressure to do it, but honestly, it was starting to be more irritating (physically) than pleasurable -- she was starting to latch incorrectly (getting just the nipple and leaving teeth marks), but the tweaking of the other nipple while she nursed was the worst. Ack.

    Has anyone gone back to nursing after starting to wean? If I don't have any milk, am I really just a giant pacifier? I really miss the closeness and just watching her nurse, but I don't want this to be a complete mindfuck for the both of us.

    Sorry if this is all over the place. I feel like I'm rambling.


  2. Lisa - I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I weaned earlier (16 mo & 18 mo) and found that it was harder on me than them. I would imagine it is harder with a 2.5 yo. You just need to do what works for you. If you want to keep nursing once or twice a day, then do it. If you are ready to be done, then stick with it for a few more days and she will probably be handling it better too.

    Good luck.

  3. Lisa,

    It is great that you nursed as long as you did. But I would think letting her back on wouldn't be a great idea and you would be just a pacifier like you said. I stopped nursing just a week shy of 2 years. My little one will cuddle up and rub my breasts to self sooth at night or when she is upset. She will tell me my boobies are cute and she "loves them". That seems to be enough for her. There are times when this annoys me, but last night she slept with me in my arms and it was so sweet. So we are still very close. She understands I'm out of milk and will suggest we go back to the grocery store.

    Anyway, just give it time and give yourself (both of you) a chance to adjust. Hang in there, it will get better.

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