Vets Adopting III (all vets advice welcome!)

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  1. BG thanks for the good news. I needed something positive to end the night with.
    Pot - sorry about your process. All bills but no substance. Bummer.

  2. Yes, BG, thanks for the cheering news. Just delurking to see if they allow "*****" now...as in "your asswipe boss sucks and is also a *****."

  3. I guess that would be a no. Although the stars allow all sorts of possibilities too.

    (The test word was l oser.)

    As you were, ladies.

  4. POT and KL--just checking in to see your progress. I'm sorry to hear things are at a standstill, but they can't stay like this forever. It just sux--oh wait, I mean it SUCKS BUTT (weeeeee) that you have to continue to wait and I'm sorry.
    Yes, I'm kinda glad the missionaries are in the slammer. I mean, I'm sure (i think) that they meant well, but ditto what BG said.

  5. KL, EB PoTs the waiting freaking sucks. Geez, and I thought you all were "just" adopting. Isn't there, like, a cabbage patch you can go pick up a kid from, or an orphan store? That's what I hear from my cousins, SIl's MIlL's sister's friend. And then just like that she got pregnant after adopting. Or was it just that she started the paperwork and then got pregnant? I can't remember but it was true....

  6. KL, EB PoTs the waiting freaking sucks. Geez, and I thought you all were "just" adopting. Isn't there, like, a cabbage patch you can go pick up a kid from, or an orphan store? That's what I hear from my cousins, SIl's MIlL's sister's friend. And then just like that she got pregnant after adopting. Or was it just that she started the paperwork and then got pregnant? I can't remember but it was true....

    No. no. she got pregnant after booking her flights to Haiti....

    I\'m sure that was it, I heard it from my co-worker's roommate, who overheard it in the ladies room!

  7. mujrapk
    I spoke to my agency yesterday about the fingerprints.
    They said that the time can range greatly and it's partly seasonal and partly depending on where you are. Another interesting piece for Russia that I hope is the same for Korea is that you don't need this for the dossier or tHe first trip (and I know for Korea you do it all at once). Anyway,I hope this helps in some way.

    I told them the flight length and number is intimidating and they told me we can fly from Korea into Russia ,the planes and flights seem more manageable. However,for the final trip we will need to fly into Moscow and th impression I got was that the planes look very scary. As the woman put it "we had flight crew travel with us and they felt very safe. The planes are in good mechanical shape". I can't wait (yikes).

    Best news -no four trips. Just two.

  8. Hi Eb- Thanks for the info. I got the same info as you regarding the fingerprints. Since we're in the NY area, it's slower as they process a much bigger population than other cities/towns. Also, they're moving slower than usual because of the holidays. I kind of figured that by February they'd be beyond the holiday backlog. I guess we'll see. We've been waiting about 3 weeks for our appointment. For Korea, we need the prints to be processed so we can get our I-171 form. Once we have that form, everything gets sent to the agency in Korea (SWS). That's when our wait for referral officially begins. We only have one trip. I'm glad to hear you have 2 and not 4!! Your travel to the far reaches of Russia does sound a bit intimidated BUT very interesting. Think of it as an adventure. And the stories you will be able to tell!

  9. EB, great news on only 2 trips. I can't believe it was 4 before?!?! Maybe a little xanax before the scary plane ride?

  10. Yesterday we received a letter from CIS. I was jumping for joy... until I opened it. It was a letter confirming that they have our paperwork and that they will be sending us an appointment for fingerprinting. And the letter says they received our request on 2/2. Our home study was on 12/5! And I know our SW sent it to CIS in early January. So did it sit in a pile somewhere for a month??! Sigh.... patience patience patience. I need a good mantra.

    On another (maybe crazy) note- I did something I've never done before. I bought baby clothes. Now of course I don't know when I'm getting a child or how big he will be or what season it will be, but I went out on a limb and bought boy tees for a 12-18 month old from the Tea Collection because right now they have a whole line of Korea inspired children's clothes. I'm going to tuck them away somewhere. I'm embarrassed- don't even want to tell DH, he's getting sick of my BS. I swing from despair (this is never going to happen!!!) to hopeful (purchasing baby clothes). Trying to hang on to my sanity here.

  11. KL- Don't be embarrassed. When we decided to jump off the IVF train and pursue adoption I bought a few things too. Actually it was after our SW said "You know this is no longer about if and is now about when." Granted I had no idea when 'when' was going to be and I am not sure I even believed there would be a 'when', but the notion there might be made me cry. So after I finally stopped crying, DH and I went out a got some yellow things. It honestly wasn't really for the baby we would someday have. It was for me. I just wanted, make that needed, to experience it. It was just a couple things and I actually packed them in our 'drop in the lap' bag. I never used the items, but I have them as a reminder of how I felt that day.

  12. KL - I wonder if the SW sat on the USCIS form for a month. We sent our on Feb 1st, overnight. We received the same letter you have received today (notice of action) and it stated that they received the letter on Feb 2nd and that it is now in process.
    At this point I suppose it doesn't matter but I hope that they get on your request asap and who knows, we might be fingeprinted at the same time ( we are also in NYC).

  13. KL - I wonder if the SW sat on the USCIS form for a month. We sent our on Feb 1st, overnight. We received the same letter you have received today (notice of action) and it stated that they received the letter on Feb 2nd and that it is now in process. At this point I suppose it doesn't matter but I hope that they get on your request asap and who knows, we might be fingeprinted at the same time ( we are also in NYC).

    I'm not sure... I'm going to email her because I'm a little confused. We received a letter about 3 weeks ago from Homeland Security saying they had our information and that we need to have our "biometrics" taken. Then I received a letter dated 2/2 from CIS saying that we'll be getting an appointment to come in for fingerprinting for overseas orphan adoption (or something like that). Not sure why 2 separate letters... Maybe our paperwork is moving (slowly) from department to department?

    Anyway, our letter is also dated 2/2 so maybe we really will be there at the same time. That would be kinda cool, huh?

  14. KL and EB, thinking about you both as you navigate the bureaucracy.

    Referenced your experiences, BTW, the other day when telling someone that actually it's not EASY to adopt from Haiti now.... sigh.

  15. Thanks pot. You rock!!

    I hope for u and everyone else that however we get there that we have a healthy and happy ending (or beggining depending on how u look at it).

  16. Not a chance that you'd both wind up at CIS on Jamaica Avenue in Queens for those fingerprints is there? It would be too too funny if you were down the road from me (well, a bus ride away, anyway!)

  17. Got it!!! Our fingerprinting appt is for next week. Whew, I can breathe again. Not in Queens though, BG, out here on the island. So I think our stuff sat at Homeland Security for several weeks before making it's way to CIS which got us scheduled right away. In all, about 4 weeks of waiting total (not 8, thank God). I hope you get your appointment soon, EB!

    So now... 2-3 months to process the prints, then everything goes to Korea. Wait 6-10 months for referral, travel 2-4 months after that. This COULD happen within a year. FINGERS CROSSED.

  18. Got it!!! Our fingerprinting appt is for next week. Whew, I can breathe again. Not in Queens though, BG, out here on the island. So I think our stuff sat at Homeland Security for several weeks before making it's way to CIS which got us scheduled right away. In all, about 4 weeks of waiting total (not 8, thank God). I hope you get your appointment soon, EB!So now... 2-3 months to process the prints, then everything goes to Korea. Wait 6-10 months for referral, travel 2-4 months after that. This COULD happen within a year. FINGERS CROSSED.

    WOOP WOOP! Fingers crossed!

  19. KL-awesome. Psyched for you.

  20. Wahhoooooo KL! Freaking awesome! FWOW< we got our fingerprints back in (I think) 2 weeks from CIS.

  21. Wow, KL, that's fabulous. Congrats - pulling for you!!!

  22. Yay Kristen. Glad to hear that things are moving along.

  23. Yippee KL! Things are moving in the right direction...so happy for you

  24. Yeah KL!! That is great.

  25. mujrapk, great news!

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