Shall I say " I am done?"

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  1. Hi All,
    I am not sure where should I post this. I am hoping you can give me some advices.
    I was diagnosised as complex endometrium hyperplasia with atypia in 2002 and was put on tons of progestron in the past few years to prevent endometrium cancer. During the past few years, I went through 5 fresh IVFs and the last one result my DD. I can't believe how lucky I am to have her. Three months after delivery, a biopcy shows the endometrium hyperplasia came back , this time without atypia. Paps mear also have mild changes. I was refer to an oncologist right away. I told him that I still have 4 embryos left on ice so I still have chance to get pregnant. He suggested a D&C to make sure the biopcy didn't miss out any atypia cells. If there is no atypia, he suggested put a IUD in me to give me progestrone directly into my uterus instead of takeing high dose progestrone in the coming year. He doesn't suggest a hysterectomy at this point. However, I am really on the fence if I should just go ahead with hysterectomy. I had a C cection birth so if I want to put those embryos back, I have to wait for another year. During this year, I have to keep an eye on my uterus and cervics. That means many Dr, appointments, biopcys......I am already 40 years old, and the last 8 years , ivf is the only thing in my life. I am so tired of worring all the time. I am really not sure if I should take the risk for another year. On the other hand, if I do a hysterectomy now, I feel bad for my left embryos. It feels like to left a baby behind. I will always wondering what if I give them a chance for the rest of my life. I know it is a big decision to make. Please give me some insight, any advice is welcome.
    Thanks.

  2. So sorry you are going through this right now. You have a hard decision ahead of you. If I were you I would get a second opinion from another doctor in that field. If he also does not suggest a hysterectomy and can verify that pregnancy is safe for you I would use your embies. From your posts it sounds like you will always wonder what if.....

    Now, in regards to them being left behind there is always the option of donation to another couple or to research. Those are sensitive issues that only you can decide if they are viable options for you. I have three frozen embies so this may be something I am faced with as well. Your health is very important for your dd and for a future child. Please educate yourself on your condition and get a second or third opinion for peace of mind. Hugs!

  3. Thank you so much for the advice. Really appreciate it.

  4. From your posts it sounds like you will always wonder what if.....Now, in regards to them being left behind there is always the option of donation to another couple or to research. Those are sensitive issues that only you can decide if they are viable options for you.

    I agree with this. Will you ponder the rest of your life wondering \"what if\"?? If hysterectomy is not a requirement, why put your emotions (or your body) through it?

    Also, if hysterectomy IS the most reasonable conclusion, I also encourage you to consider donation. I, too, have frozen embryos that may end up this avenue. IMHO, they are not \"left behind\" if they can do some good to help for the future~ Imagine how grateful and blessed another couple would feel. If you're not comfortable donating them to another couple, science is begging for them. I feel it's the same as donating your organs after you pass~ if I can save 7 people with my organs, that's 7 lives that can be saved/made better and it didn't cost me a thing. What am I going to do with my heart after I'm gone, KWIM? Your embryos might help a breakthrough in science. LIke ICSI, assisted hatching, or PGD... imagine the good they could do!

    Again, it's your decision. Your worries. Your wonder. Noone can make this decision for you. You have to consider the welfare of your own life, your DD, and decide whats best for you both on a whole.

    Wishing you luck~
    Brandi

  5. Another option for the embryos, if you do need a hysterectomy, is surrogacy. You'd give your embryos a chance, and also give your chold(ren) a chance regarding your future health. Get another opinion and see what the doctors say.

  6. I would confirm that you need to wait a year to get PG again. I had a c section (full term healthy) and my OB said I did not have to wait due to the history of infertility. I got PG quickly and had 2nd baby 15 months later with no complications full term over 9lbs. If you had an uncomplicated pregnancy it might be an option given the cancer concern. I'd discuss what risks your OB is trying to avoid in waiting a year and weigh those against the cancer risks. Good luck.

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