Nosey-Poll :) Do you use the potty in front of your DH/DP? Pass gas around him/her?

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  1. MULTIPLE CHOICE POLL- VOTE ONCE FOR EACH ANSWER

    ETA~ This poll vote is annonymous... but please feel free to post your answers.

    So I was having a conversation with SIL a while back about going potty (specifically poop) with DH in the bathroom. (How we got on that subject I cannot remember) But it got me to thinking... how many familes do, and how many don't. So I decided to run a poll here to see. Might be fun.

    PART 1:

    I confess, DH will come in the bathroom when I'm doing it, and I go in when DH is doing it. (NOt like we beeline and chat, but we don't "avoid it" either. If I have a question to ask, or something I need to tell him, I do. Same goes for him asking me. Are we wierd? Are we the only couple who poops in front of each other? No modesty in our home!

    PART 2:

    This brings me to another topic I am curious about. I am SURE almost all DH's pass gas (ie: FART ) in front of their wives. Most of them crack up afterwards, like it's a big funny joke. Now I want to know, do the wives FART in front of their DH's too? I know in my house we both pass that gas openly and freely. (Now nobody wants to visit me & my stinky house LOL )

    Also, do you or DH fart in public places? DH just farts walking down the aisleway, big ol' grin on his face. Sometimes he warns me "not to walk down that aisle" UGH. (I will if I am VERY discreet about it. Go off to a corner alone & hide )

    Curious and Nosey~
    Brandi

  2. I think all of us on this forum have farted in public...sometimes, you just can't help it. I try not to fart when I'm away from home or out in the "open air", but every now and then, you're trapped and can't get away fast enough

    We have to be careful not to toot too loudly around DD2. She's at the stage now where she will literally ask "Poo poo?" out loud and run up behind me and try to pull my pants down or put her hands down my underwear to make sure I didn't s*** my pants. Aaaahhh...the joys of potty training!

    Oh, and I do not enjoy when someone next to me farts at the gym, and I'm stuck on a machine and can't get away or worry others might think it's me.

  3. We don't EVER walk in on each other in the bathroom!! We knock and ask if we can come in, if there's poop or pee involved we don't go in. I think dh has seen me pee maybe 2-3 times in 10 years and only because of either being pregnant or because the kids have opened the door.

    We also never fart anywhere near each other. NEVER!

    I told him years ago (probably a few months into dating) that farting in front of your partner is NOT a sign of intimacy, its just disgusting. I also think its just so unsexy/romantic. I hate it. He looked a little shocked but said ok, yeah I guess your right. So we don't do that either.

    Obviously, out in public is a no no too!

    I must admit, I'm really glad I don't have a stinkin' fartin' husband who 'enjoys' disgusting me with farts.

    Ema

  4. I think it is a sign of respect to keep these things private. Just my opinion and I'm sure no one will agree with me but that's how I see it. I would never have married a man who thinks farting around me is funny. Our personalities would just have never jived enough to get married.

  5. That's why I love having a master bath that has a separate "water closet". Go in, close and lock door. Sometimes it is the only time I get to sit down alone!

    Then if someone needs to come in ask a question etc. without seeing me actually on the pot!
    Donna

  6. I think it is a sign of respect to keep these things private. Just my opinion and I'm sure no one will agree with me but that's how I see it. I would never have married a man who thinks farting around me is funny. Our personalities would just have never jived enough to get married.
    I agree. And I never passed gas around my h until I was pregnant and my intestines were being pressed on and I had little control of gas. Although once he had surgery I had to bath him and clean him up so that was our only exceptions to the stay out rule.

  7. I think it is a sign of respect to keep these things private. Just my opinion and I'm sure no one will agree with me but that's how I see it. I would never have married a man who thinks farting around me is funny. Our personalities would just have never jived enough to get married.

    Could have written it myself. Probably part of the way I was brought up,,,,,my dad in particular is really polite (not saying my mom isn't ). Totally agree with 64 though!

  8. I think it is a sign of respect to keep these things private. Just my opinion and I'm sure no one will agree with me but that's how I see it. I would never have married a man who thinks farting around me is funny. Our personalities would just have never jived enough to get married.
    We don't break wind in front of each other on purpose! Usually, we get to the bathroom first, but there have been occasions (sickness, pregnancy, IF meds, etc.) where it can't be helped.
    However, when the unexpected does happen, the first response is embarrassment, followed by a chuckle or two.
    I don't think that's what you meant by it being a deal breaker, 64?

  9. We also never fart anywhere near each other. NEVER!I told him years ago (probably a few months into dating) that farting in front of your partner is NOT a sign of intimacy, its just disgusting. I also think its just so unsexy/romantic. I hate it. He looked a little shocked but said ok, yeah I guess your right. So we don't do that either. I must admit, I'm really glad I don't have a stinkin' fartin' husband who 'enjoys' disgusting me with farts. Ema

    Ema, would you be willing to have "the talk" with my DH? He was farting in front of me before we ever even started dating. UGH. I'll admit I was a little put-off by it at first, but my mom explained (yes, I complained to my Mom) that it's a normal body function and everybody does it so what's the big deal? Um, it stinks! I'd be glad to go back to not farting around DH if he would stop doing it around me.

    The only reason I do it in front of him now is because I truly feel like there is no reason left for me to be "romantic" or "mysterious" anymore. Sad, I know. DH has seen me in some of my worst (most embarrasing) positions. Ah, what 15 years together will do to a couple.

    Hell, the night before my hemorrhoid surgery he had to administer my enema and after the surgery he cleaned me up when I had accidents. (TMI? ) Hemorrhoid surgery kicked my ass (pun intended). But DH stood by me, nursed me, and helped me to recover. He was a lifesaver. So a few stinky farts I can tolerate!

    I must admit, I am a bit surprised...as of now more people voted that they DO fart around DH/DH farts around them, but only those who DO NOT are posting comments.... methinks this might be a more embarrasing subject than I initially thought.

    So here's another twist to the question.... what do you do when your DC passes gas in public? What about when they announce it? Do you scold him/her? Tell them that it's gross?

    My DS (8yo) doesn't like to fart in public or around people (he will do it in front of me & DH but when he does usually he gets really embarrassed). But, DD (2yo) is the gassiest kid I have ever met and when she toots she giggles and says "I fah-ted". (Gotta love that, right?) So my kids are night and day on this subject.

    Thanks to everyone for weighing in on this. At least I know (by poll results) we are not the only house in America who toots freely!

    Take Care~
    Brandi

  10. So here's another twist to the question.... what do you do when your DC passes gas in public? What about when they announce it? Do you scold him/her? Tell them that it's gross?

    I guess it depends on how the parents deal with it. Around here we fart in the bathroom. So if our daughter farts and especially if she laughs about it and talks about it afterwards we point out that she needs to go to the bathroom to do that. Not scolding but reminding her of our house rules.

    I don't know if it's that cultural thing again but my husband is english and has never farted in front of me (I've had more oopsies with pregnancies and my love of beans ). I've never had to have a talk with him about it.

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    So here's another twist to the question.... what do you do when your DC passes gas in public? What about when they announce it? Do you scold him/her? Tell them that it's gross?
    In our house, people fart. It's a bodily function and not one to be ashamed of. Typically we say "excuse me" afterwards. If we are particularly gassy or if the gas smells bad, we excuse ourselves to the bathroom out of courtesy. 8 yo DSS is able to follow these rules. But since DD literally can't control when or where she farts, say excuse me, or remove herself from the room (she is severely disabled), it makes having DS follow our rules a little difficult. Maybe when he gets older he will understand why some things that are okay for his sister to do, aren't okay for him. That's what I'm hoping anyway.

    ETA: In public, I really haven't had to deal with it yet. I suppose if someone was standing close to us and either of my toddlers passed gas, I would say "excuse me" for them. Although as DS gets older, I would expect him to excuse himself.

  12. We do not do any of it in front of the other. Dh is not shy about heading off to the bathroom when the need arises but I'm very modest about my bodily functions and will slip off to privacy.

    I think whatever works for you as a couple.

  13. We don't break wind in front of each other on purpose! Usually, we get to the bathroom first, but there have been occasions (sickness, pregnancy, IF meds, etc.) where it can't be helped.However, when the unexpected does happen, the first response is embarrassment, followed by a chuckle or two.
    yeah... same here too, plus a light-hearted apology. and please no pooping/peeing in front of each other either, thank you kindly.

    China.

    ps
    we are asking the kids to do the same and excuse themselves after those unavoidables!

  14. If Dh gets in a crazy mood he will pass gass in front of me and not care in the slightest if I roll my eyes or make disgusted faces. Usually he is pretty good about being discreet.

    One of my SIL's (Dh's brothers' wife) was here for a visit a while back and she was farting left and right, loudly, and didn't seem to think anything of it. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. So much depends on the house you were raised and how it was treated--whether it was just seen as a "bodily function" or something funny, or a non-issue altogether.

  15. I'll admit it. We use the potty in front of each other. I didn't used to and it always bothered me, but DH would just walk in and start chatting away with me so it got to the point where I'd just not even bother closing the door. But lately, I've started closing the door and yelling "PRIVACY PLEASE" when he'd start to come in.

    We don't pass gas in front of each other much.

  16. BF and I will go number 1. Sad to say, I go to a diff floor of his condo or my home if I have to go 2.

    With that said, the first time we stayed together for the night, we spooned and I awoke to ripping one on his leg. Must have been the gyro.

  17. We never, ever poop in front of each other, totally grosses us out. We don't even pee in front of each other unless we're at a hotel and he's in the shower and it's an emergency and I warn him! IMO, it's hard enough to keep the magic alive without me having to know about his bowel movements!

    We try not to fart around each other, but it happens occasionally of course, and we'll say excuse me.

    Vanessa

  18. Wow! I thought for sure more people would be like DH and I...I guess we're just the gross minority. DH farts ALL the time in front of me and I return the favor. I RARELY pass gass and when I do rarely does it smell but when it does...whooboy I like to get him back. I don't like that he farts but believe me, no amount of talking about it will make that change.

    My 4 year old DD likes to proudly announce when she "toots" and we've only had one embarrasing situation out in public when she lets the world know she passed gas. Gotta work on that.

    As for the potty...I don't want him to be around me when I poo and vice versa but if we have to go in the bathroom we will. No one hangs out in there though, gross. For peeing we leave the door open and it's no big deal to walk in on each other.

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