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  1. hi ladies,
    a friend from thebump.com referred me over here. I am almost 9 weeks pg w/triplets. This was our third fresh IVF, I've had 2 prior m/c, and I've been TTC for 3 years. I am terrified of a triplet pregnancy but after seeing the heartbeats (all equally strong at this point) I am heartbroken at the thought of SR. We are seeing an MFM later this week who is supposedly very very good at SR, if we decide to go that route.

    So...I am going to keep reading your posts to learn more info, and if anyone has any advice for me I would appreciate it.

    thank you!

  2. mpotsidi,
    sorry you find yourself in a position to join us here. It's not a place anyone wants to be, but we all try to be supportive and helpful through a horrible time.

    It sounds like you're considering continuing the triplet pregnancy - if so, you may also want to look at the boards on tripletconnection.com:
    tripletconnection.org
    - but realize that they tend to be anti-s/r, so if you want to protect yourself from that mindset, then don't go there right now.

    my bit of advice for you is to not be afraid to love your babies. whatever you choose, you're doing it because you only want the best for them. Even though my story had a bad ending, I don't regret any of the attachment that I had to all three babies.

  3. mpotsidi,sorry you find yourself in a position to join us here. It's not a place anyone wants to be, but we all try to be supportive and helpful through a horrible time.It sounds like you're considering continuing the triplet pregnancy - if so, you may also want to look at the boards on tripletconnection.com:http://tripletconnection.org/triplet_forum/dcboard.php- but realize that they tend to be anti-s/r, so if you want to protect yourself from that mindset, then don't go there right now.my bit of advice for you is to not be afraid to love your babies. whatever you choose, you're doing it because you only want the best for them. Even though my story had a bad ending, I don't regret any of the attachment that I had to all three babies.

    thank you so much Candace. I just joined triplet connection too. My husband and I are really on the fence about what to do - I'm hoping that our meeting with the MFM later this week will at least give us some stats to help us make the decision. It just seems like an impossible choice.

  4. We are seeing an MFM later this week who is supposedly very very good at SR, if we decide to go that route. I did an S/R from 2 to 1 due to medical reasons, and I just wanted to post to say please, please, please make sure the dr you go to IS one of the best at S/R - I'm sure you've researched on these boards but Stone, Evans & Wapner are the names you hear the most. It's absolutely critical that you go to someone who does these procedures ALL the time. I went to Stone and she was great.

    Echoing the previous poster, I'm sorry that you're in a situation to be on this board. Best of luck to you.

  5. I did an S/R from 2 to 1 due to medical reasons, and I just wanted to post to say please, please, please make sure the dr you go to IS one of the best at S/R - I'm sure you've researched on these boards but Stone, Evans & Wapner are the names you hear the most. It's absolutely critical that you go to someone who does these procedures ALL the time. I went to Stone and she was great. Echoing the previous poster, I'm sorry that you're in a situation to be on this board. Best of luck to you.

    thanks bornat. We are definitely going to ask all of those questions. My RE is sending us to him b/c he said he's the best in the state, but I definitely want more details/stats first!

  6. inle - I've been looking for a place to jump into this topic, and since you and I seem like we are in similar places, I thought this thread made sense.

    I too am horrified that any of us are even on this board. I am 9.5 weeks with triplets and we are planning CVS and SR Oct 5 and 6 with Dr. Evans in NY. I know it is what we are going to do, we have made the decision, but I am dreading it and my heart is torn in two. I am too scared for the babies' health to not reduce to twins, but feel it will haunt me the rest of my life. Whenever I look at my twins I will think "there should be 3".... BUT I tell myself that my first job as a mother is to protect my children and SR does just that - in a twisted way. Without it I am putting all of their lives in serious danger. At least that's what I keep telling myself.

    I am not trying to tell you what you should do, just sharing how I feel about my personal situation. Each one of us has to come to the decision that works for us and our partners. There is no right/wrong choice. I do agree completely with bornat, make sure if you do it, that the doc is VERY experienced. That makes all the difference in the world when it comes to m/c risk.

  7. thanks olliroy. I appreciate hearing about your experience. Can you tell me a little more about what the doc told you about your particular risks? I've read so much conflicting info and I'm looking forward to meeting with the MFM so I can find out what he thinks about my risks specifically. Such a horrible decision to have to make.

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