Need advice..m/c ment

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  1. Hi ladies,
    I am just looking for reassurance, something to calm my nerves. I had a FET and transferred two hatching blasts. My beta at 7dp5dt was 34.2. My beta today 14dp5dt was 692. Doubling time is 38.65 hours which is good but I can't help but be nervous. I have had two recent miscarriages so I am paranoid. Any advice or stories would be greatly appreciated.

  2. Hi there

    I think you should be reassured by your betas going up---is that a guarentee that things will be okay? Life doesn't give us that which is sooo hard. I know that when I did IVF RE said you will lucky at your age to make some eggs I made over 20, then I was told because of my age I would be lucky that the quality would be okay. Then I was told have they implanted 2 5 day embryos that I would be lucky if 1 would make it. My betas went up they didn't always double 48 hours at one point it was over 72 hours. I went in for my ultrasound and there 2 precious heart beats. Then I was told that because I didn't do the Pregenetic testing that one of them might have abnormalities and I could miscarry. Every little symptom I worried but I just embraced every symptom from nausea to fatigue. Then as I passed my first trimester My ob/gyn said because your old, did IVF and pregnant with twins you will get the following (all or some of them) hypertension, gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia or PROM (and High risk for c-section). The only problem I had was so preterm labor but we were able to stop it.
    I elected not to risk my pregnancy that I work so hard for with any invasive procedure, just did a nucl. transluncy scan. I worried the whole pregnancy one thing after another---I went on to have b/g twins at 36 weeks 2 days and they were just fine (normal). But guess what you still worry how they eat and if they reaching there milestones---Then you see all this worrying is the start of becoming a Mom (even before they are born and it never stops).

    Try to take things one day at time, rejoice with every milestone because each day is a miracle. My hope and prayer for you is that you will hold this bundle of joy and hope you deseve!

    Heidi
    47 year old mom to 4 yr b/g twins.

  3. Hi,

    I couldn't have said it any better than Heidi. Of course, I don't always take my own advice but I definitely agree...rejoice and allow yourself to enjoy every wonderful milestone you reach. It's a long road ahead and sometimes we forget to let ourselves be 'normal' and enjoy the journey because we've been through so much.

    After a few losses and disappointments, I finally got one success with my 2nd FET cycle which started out as twins but I lost one at 8weeks. My betas were all over the place and did not always rise properly. It was hard to let down my guards and even at 5months I had a terrible scare - heavy bleeding but in the end I have a healthy and beautiful baby boy who's now 15months old and it's so worth the ride. You just have to take it day by day and allow yourself to live and enjoy the moment. I just failed my Jan FET cycle so I wish I were in your shoes. Congratulations and enjoy! You deserve it! Great betas!

    P.S. Heidi - don't know if you remember me but you gave me great advice and support awhile back (2008) when I was battling my beta ups and downs. Just wanted to thank you again and say hello!

    a82simi

  4. Heidi-That truly brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to my post. My mom has always told me that she will worry about me until the day she dies. I never truly understood what she meant until now. I love my baby and have loved it since the day it was created and I know that each day will bring a blessing. Instead of focusing on the "what if something is wrong", you have inspired me to embrace the "what is right". Thank you so much. Congratulations on your twins!!

    a82simi-I am so sorry about your losses and your last cycle. I agree we just have to take it day by day. Congratulations on the little boy! Thank you so much as well for taking the time to put my mind at ease. You both have allowed me to breathe a sigh of relief.

  5. Hi there

    a82simi---I do remember you! I am so happy for you! You have a little boy, I bet he is getting around like crazy and keeping you busy. I am so happy things worked out for you.

    maine---I was hoping you wouldn't think I was blowing off your worries. I wish a couple of times someone would have said things to me at the time because really all you can do is take care of yourself and leave it in the good Lord's hand. I remember saying to my OB/GYN after he went thru all my complication I WOULD have---I sat there wishing I could just get to the end of the chapter and it would say "we all lived happily ever after." I even said that to my doctor. That I was going stop worrying and let him worry about things because I was determined that things were going to end just fine! And I am not going to lie, You still worry! It is just in our nature.

    I will keep you in my prayers, but I have this feeling things are going to be okay. But please keep me updated.

    Heidi

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