mock cycle complete, now what, can i try ivf while waiting for match

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  1. i am at Cornell and was wondering.....once you finish your mock cycle, can you try an ivf cycle while you wait for donor match? if i get my period next week would i be able to cycle right away, and what if a donor is found, what would they do? just wondering if it makes sense figure might as well try if we can
    anyone been there done it???

  2. I did one cycle after completing my prep cycle. I was about to start my second when I was matched. You might want to check in with the DE team and see if they can give you an estimate on when you could be matched, because if you get a match call and are in the middle of your own cycle, I don't believe they will hold the donor for you.

  3. harokal, I cycled with OE after my mock cycle was over. However, before I cycled they told me it could be another 3 months plus too be matched, so I cycled with OE, when that failed and I was finally matched they told me they previously had this donor in mind for me but I wasn't available. Ugh. When I finally cycled with her she completely crapped out and I had only 1 4 cell embie to transfer. I think it was just bad luck on my part. But make sure you push Dee to tell you if there is anybody in the donor pool that may match you and give you an estimate of time when you will be matched before you try on your own again. I know I needed my last OE cycle for closure, if that's the case for you, go for it. Congrats on completing your mock. Also, FYI, we did have someone on our board who cycled on our board after the mock and was successful - DKNY. Good Luck in whatever you decide.

  4. harokal, I cycled with OE after my mock cycle was over. However, before I cycled they told me it could be another 3 months plus too be matched, so I cycled with OE, when that failed and I was finally matched they told me they previously had this donor in mind for me but I wasn't available. Ugh. When I finally cycled with her she completely crapped out and I had only 1 4 cell embie to transfer. I think it was just bad luck on my part. But make sure you push Dee to tell you if there is anybody in the donor pool that may match you and give you an estimate of time when you will be matched before you try on your own again. I know I needed my last OE cycle for closure, if that's the case for you, go for it. Congrats on completing your mock. Also, FYI, we did have someone on our board who cycled on our board after the mock and was successful - DKNY. Good Luck in whatever you decide.

    well thanks guys, i did post the question to cornell today and they did say that some have done it but you do risk having a donor come and having to pass on them bc you are "busy" so to speak....i also wonder if you do an IVF and it is successful but then you m/c at 7 or 8 weeks (which i did in my only successful ivf) then you have to wait for a few months and you have basically set yourself back another year. I am 41 in May and although my own eggs are perfect case scenario, i guess i don't have time on my side and in all honesty the last 2 ivf cycles were horrible, i had very bad results, one embryo on the last try was all i had. Sooooo, with the Dr saying 10% chances of success with IVF i guess it is more sensible to take the odds with DE..just wonder how long the wait list is at Cornell right now, nobody gave me any indication. thanks as always!

  5. hi harokal, i didn't cycle at cornell but it sounds like their wait list is moving a lot more quickly 4-6mths of late, vs 9+ mths last year.

    like you, we were told our chances of success with OE were 10% so we moved on to DE. we cycled at SIRM so didn't need a mock cycle. we had our DE tx in late November and now i'm 17 wks pg (though i still can't believe it most of the time).

    looking back on the last two years, i think that being on the ivf rollercoaster is more stressful than we think, both to body and mind. then moving straight to DE and finally being pg, while wonderful, is also a lot of work. so if i were you, given the lack of success to date with OE, the 10% chance, and the risk of a m/c that could just set you back time wise, i would recommend that you take the next few months off and just totally enjoy the spring. work out, eat out, make out with your DH...being pg is a lot harder than i had expected and i have zero energy/appetite for any of the fun stuff anymore. i'm sure i'm more tired because of the 3 cycles i had done in the prior 12 months, but still, that is my 2c. enjoy the break, spring will be fabulous.

    GL

  6. harokal, I've got to agree with mairead on this one. Personally, I've been really enjoying my time off cycling as I wait for my DE cycle (I've been matched at SDFC and I tentatively am cycling in May). It's like I'm human again - I don't know my exact cycle day, I'm not going to the doctor all the time, I've started exercising, I go out, I'm planning a trip, I have not taken one medication (not even pre-natals) in over a month. It's pretty amazing. I guess this is how normal people live.

    Now clearly, you need to figure out if you need this last cycle with your OE for other reasons. For me, I considered it briefly, but then realized I was too scared of beating the odds and getting a BFP but then having the inevitable m/c a few weeks into it. Which would push my DE cycle out a few more months - which in my head now is time I could be with my child if I had just stuck with the DE plan.

  7. thanks to all of the responses here, mairead what a thoughtful reply, you really gave me some great insight and it makes sense and i realize that i am holding out false hope. We were in agreement that the last cycle would be it, we did 3 ivf's in 8 months and an Iui as well, so 4 shots last year and the writing is on the wall here. I don't want to delay this process at all, if time were on my side it might be different but i turn 41 in May and that is a tough pill to swallow. So thank you very much for your kind and well put words. Kate, good luck to you, i have to be honest the thought of cycling right now is pretty tough, i had such long stim periods (17-20 days) and i can't get into the mindset at all. I have a friend retrieving today so that makes me think about it a bit, but i will enjoy my time and hopefully be in a position where i can't drink wine in a few months!

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