IVF#7, Donor Egg IVF#1 = BFN NEED SOME HOPE!

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  1. Its not like I thought it would be a "sure thing" but after being told my eggs suck for 5 years, and making the hard decision to move to donor eggs, and all of the trials and tribulations that go along with that endeavor (private donation) I thought maybe, just maybe, since the stats are so bloody high, I might catch a break. No such luck. After spending 25,000 my husband and I are pretty upset...to say the least.

    The plus side of things is that our donor was great - she gave us lots of embryos and we have another 23 on ice. We transferred the best 2 from the first batch of 7 and froze the rest. The doc says we have at least another 6 transfers, but I am feeling so hopeless at this point. Sure, its a nice insurance package to have all these babies on ice, but somehow I see getting to the end of this with nothing. I'm hoping the negativity comes from 5 years of negatives, rather than a subconscious thing.

    It was known that my uterine lining was thin...we needed to move quickly because the donor was moving away. I'm thankful we did it on her time frame, because we got such a great result, but my uterus wasn't ready (we think). I was under the impression a good embryo would implant anywhere... its not like my uterus is on fire or anything.

    My doc said not to worry...he now wants to do a D&C type procedure, because he suspects my lining isn't thickening due to some past surgeries/scarring (I had a hydro removed and a large septum). He wants to gently scrape the uterus and heal it property (balloon) and then try again.

    I'm starting to wonder if I can even get pregnant.

    Is there any hope? I would love to hear anyone's stories - successful or otherwise.

    Thanks for listening.

  2. My first DE cycle failed (Oct 09) but the second got BFP. For me, changing donors was the key (first one was first timer and turned out to have bad quality eggs according to embryologist) but in your case, you have good quality and good number of eggs and there is no reason not to be very hopeful Take courage. It took me and my husband a huge amount of effort to go one more time but we kept on striving.

    muneer

  3. My first DE cycle failed as well. Similar situation - numerous failed IUI's and IVFs with my poor quality eggs. Finally used a donor, she responded great, we were told the embryos looked perfect, etc etc. BFN. BTW, my lining looked perfect too, so still have no idea why that cycle didn't work.

    We were ready to throw in the towel, but we still had frozen embryos from the donor. Got a BFP on the first FET. (We transferred two and have a DD who is now 18 months.)

    I know how depressing it can be when you think you're finally doing something that will work and it doesn't right away...but it still can. Hang in there!!

  4. I know of several women including myself who had BFN on their fresh donor cycle and went on to have BFP on a FET. DOn't give up hope. This can still work and you might even get a sibling out of it.

    Cordelia

  5. Ladies, thanks so much for replying to my depressing post - you have made me feel a lot better. Somehow there always seems to be a tiny shred of hope...even after all of this disappointment. I think my fear comes mostly from NEVER having experienced even a chemical pregnancy. After tall these years of TTC naturally, and all of our IVF attempts, not even a spark of conception? Its worrisome.

    Can I ask - did all of you have chemicals/and or miscarriages? That seems to be the case, that most women at one point or another had a pregnancy...

    I'm curious to know the answer to that. In the meantime, I guess I'll have that D&C type procedure to see if my lining can be improved.

    Thanks very much for your replies!

  6. coming to this a bit late, but i can tell you my story. our first donor had poor egg quality, of 15 eggs retrieved only 2 fert normally and two were rescue icsid. transferred two on day 3 and bfn. transferred the other two on a FET and chemical. i have no fert issues myself (was 43 at the time), just old age, and my linings and such were all fine.

    got a new donor, and, as you might imagine, was very careful that she was proven (4 + pgs on the fresh cycle with 4 cycles- so 100% record). did an eSET on the fresh and bfp- he's almost 3. did an FET/eSET two years later and he is 10 months. it really can work and its great you have so many more tries

    best of luck

  7. I'm hoping this is the case with my situation. I'm scheduled for transfer Mid April and first DE cycle last Summer ended up with 5 transferrable blasts and BFN for fresh and frozen and they couldn't figure out why since I have no issues and the embryos looked decent. she was a first time donor but no track record.

    This time using a 2x donor that produced twins both cycles transferring 2 embryos (1st IP delivered twin boys and 2nd is about 14 weeks along) so I'm banking on her good quality eggs.

    I also sought some immune work up and found need lovenox, dexamethasone for my cycle and took trip to MX for some treatments.

    coming to this a bit late, but i can tell you my story. our first donor had poor egg quality, of 15 eggs retrieved only 2 fert normally and two were rescue icsid. transferred two on day 3 and bfn. transferred the other two on a FET and chemical. i have no fert issues myself (was 43 at the time), just old age, and my linings and such were all fine.got a new donor, and, as you might imagine, was very careful that she was proven (4 + pgs on the fresh cycle with 4 cycles- so 100% record). did an eSET on the fresh and bfp- he's almost 3. did an FET/eSET two years later and he is 10 months. it really can work and its great you have so many more triesbest of luck

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