"I'm a girl!"

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  1. Okay, little dude is enjoying his cross-dressing phase.

    He plays ballerina, goes off to job interviews in Mama's heels and his very own handbag, etc. DH and I are both totally fine with all of this, although it does leave DH a little chagrined.

    What I'm not sure of how to handle is when he announces, "I'm a GIRL!"

    I used to try and reason with him that he's a boy because he has a p***. However, I know that two year olds aren't really apt to be reasoned with, he doesn't have the processing power...

    So, now I say, "Are you going to be a girl TODAY?" to acknowledge that its an imaginary state like being a princess.

    What do other parents say???

  2. Would it work to say... "oh you're silly, you are dressed like a girl, but you really are a boy." or... "oh, you are a boy just like Daddy".

    I don't know tough spot. My daughter kept referring to herself as Joe for a while, because she had a new friend. That lasted about a month or so. We didn't put much thought into it, and it disappeared.

    Good luck

  3. I think you are handling it well. Both of my boys went through this stage, my 3 yo ds is currently doing this. He loves princesses and pink and purple. He also twirls around in circles and says he's a ballerina. He frequently tells me that he's a girl. I just tell him that he's a boy and have a laugh with him about it. His older brother (5yo) is very dramatic about it all and appalled by his brother. It's just a stage, he'll be over it soon.

  4. Not a clue - I have Bam Bam for a son.

    Now my almost 6yo dd is a total tomboy as was/is her mother. Reverse situations but same deal.

    I just tell her "you can like to play sports, etc. and still be a girl".....

    Gender is neutral in my mind when it comes to children.

  5. I have b/g twins. DS wants to do a lot of the same things - princess dress-up, etc. I just let him. DH isn't too crazy about me painting his nails, but I think it's harmless.

    Sometimes he'll say he's a girl and I'll say "You are? That's funny, I thought you were a boy! Where did my big boy go?" He usually cracks up and says "I'm just kidding, Mommy It's me, Hayden!"

    Erica

  6. you paint his nails, avillava? my jaw dropped when i read that but i think it's really cool that you do that. i'm sure he just thinks it's FUN and you're right, that is totally harmless. bravo.

  7. So, now I say, "Are you going to be a girl TODAY?" to acknowledge that its an imaginary state like being a princess.

    I think this is very clever! Good solution.

    Just praying that my 2 year old will not develop a shoe fetish like his mommy. I have over 50 pairs in a walk-in closet, most of which I have never worn. He parades around in them, so proud. Try to put safer ones in reach (ones that he won't fall over and break his neck in). However, he invariably goes for the spiky Charles Jourdan pumps in fire engine red.

    But then again, he really likes fire engines

  8. Sounds like you are handling it wonderfully. If it comes to that, I think I'll use your line. I have 2.5-yr-old b/g twins, and my DS loves purples and pinks. I am fine with this. Sometimes he wants to wear a skort or dress. Fine. Luckily, DH is also fine with this. He has not said he's a girl. But tonight he was mama. And he often says he has a vagina -- it's down near his ankle. (He's also very interested in his penis. But he always wants everything his twin sister has, so I guess this was his solution in this case.)

  9. I'd treat it the same way I would if he said he was a turtle, or a lion. Its just role playing.

    Ema

  10. My 5.5 yr is a bit like this. I paint one toe nail for him when he wants. Dh freaks out I say,"we have 3 boys. If I get one hairdresser out of it it still leaves you 2 "

    Mizzu

  11. One of my boys went through that phase a bit-- he wanted a skirt, so I made him one and he wore it at home a few times. He wouldn't wear it out because even at 3, he knew it was not typical behavior, especially since his twin wouldn't do it! They both wanted his nails painted-- orange, blue or black. No harm in that. He's 8 now and is definitely all-boy, so I wouldn't worry about the phase. Sounds like you're supporting his creativity perfectly.

  12. I say,"we have 3 boys. If I get one hairdresser out of it it still leaves you 2 " Mizzu

    omgosh - how funny - dh and I have had similar dialogues about one ds in particular. I said to dh, "I'd like someone to stick around when they're grown up and help me pick out window treatments."

  13. I'd treat it the same way I would if he said he was a turtle, or a lion. Its just role playing. Ema

    So true . . . . . . .

  14. Chem,
    It would get the same response as my * puppy*, *cow*, etc. C is big into animals<smile>. I had a moose in my room one evening. " How nice, sweetheart! Let me know when C is back!" We had a dino living in the back yard for awhile. Gender issues, species issues....just roll with the punches, Momma! LOL

    danai

  15. Thanks everyone...

    Its funny how species issues are much easier than gender issues.

    When its a kangaroo hopping around the living room or a lemur on the playground (Mama was SO proud), the proper response is obvious.

    Being a girl is the same thing!

    On a related note, I have a friend of a friend with 3 yo b-g twins. On weekdays they are of their "normal" gender and then they switch on weekends. And yes, the boy goes to church dressed full-on frilly girl.

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