Hi dimopoulos,
Just a quick note to say Happy New Year. Any news?
Take care,
spirosm
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Hello spirosm,
Happy New Year!
no news on our side.. my DH is trying to work through these issues. But I have to say, I don't really think he is trying. He doesn't talk about anything to anyone. He doesn't read anything on it. He just doesn't seem to be thinking about it at all. I could be wrong but I don't see anything.
Anything new with you?
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Hello spirosm, Happy New Year! no news on our side.. my DH is trying to work through these issues. But I have to say, I don't really think he is trying. He doesn't talk about anything to anyone. He doesn't read anything on it. He just doesn't seem to be thinking about it at all. I could be wrong but I don't see anything. Anything new with you?Well, we're trying to make a go of this last cycle. We have a heartbeat, which we didn't have last time. Now, we just have to get through the blood tests and ultrasounds to see if we need an amnio. Neither of us is taking this pregnancy for granted, so we aren't getting our hopes up, in case it fails again. We'll see.
Good luck and take care of yourself,
spirosm
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That is wonderful! I really hope this works for you.. You have definitely been through a lot to get there.
for me, my DH has just decided that we can start the process of using Donor in April. I guess he just wants a few more months to accept this reality, so we can move forward. I am so thrilled!!! However, I am nervous because we have our counceling appt tonight, and I hope he doesn't decide to change his mind...
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dimopoulos - just checking to see how things were going and am glad to see that dh seems to have come around to the idea. It is hard, I know. My dh came around to the idea when it was a bit too late for me and I was already into my 40's. Best of luck to you....I'll keep checking to see how you're doing.
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I think things are really starting to look up for us. He finally realized that he needed to compromise with me a little bit. I have been waiting to have kids for 5 years now. He said that as long as he accepts it 10% more than he is now than we can start in April. I have a feeling things are going to be harder when we do start looking for that donor, but I KNOW things will be great when we get pregnant.
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I think things are really starting to look up for us. He finally realized that he needed to compromise with me a little bit. I have been waiting to have kids for 5 years now. He said that as long as he accepts it 10% more than he is now than we can start in April. I have a feeling things are going to be harder when we do start looking for that donor, but I KNOW things will be great when we get pregnant.I am happy to hear that things are going better. It looked bleak last year. Does DH want to be involved in the donor search? Are you looking for anything in particular?
Good luck,
spirosm
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It looked REALLY bad last year. I was prepared to get a divorce. I am so happy that he is finally coming around. I don't know if he wants to be a part of the search for the donor or what characteristics he would want to look for. At our last counciling appoinment, we were given the assignment to fill out the donor profile sheet for what we each see in my DH and for what we would each want in a donor. I guess I will figure this out soon.
I hope everything is going well with you and your DW!!
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Hi dimopoulos,
Any news to report? Take care.
-spirosm
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hello,
well no definite news... we have been seeing a counselor for 6 months now, and the final decision is supposed to be made when we see her March 20. My DH says he is leaning towards saying yes... (a long cry from him telling me that we would start in April)... He is still having troubles with the lack of a genetic link. Really, I am getting very aggreviated at this point. He needs to just make up his mind and either we being or he lets me go.. I can't stay on this rollar coaster ride anymore!
any news with you??? I hope no news is good news
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hello,well no definite news... we have been seeing a counselor for 6 months now, and the final decision is supposed to be made when we see her March 20. My DH says he is leaning towards saying yes... (a long cry from him telling me that we would start in April)... He is still having troubles with the lack of a genetic link. Really, I am getting very aggreviated at this point. He needs to just make up his mind and either we being or he lets me go.. I can't stay on this rollar coaster ride anymore!any news with you??? I hope no news is good newsWell, the pregnancy is at five months. The results of the first and second level ultrasounds give us a 1:650 chance of a Down's child. We go back next week for another ultrasound (they didn't get a good look at the face last time). I don't want to know the gender, so DW has to be in the dark, too, as she is sure that she couldn't know and keep it a secret from me.
She finds that aggravating. So, yes, so far, so good. Good luck on the 20th. Let us know what happens.-spirosm
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well, that is good news.. I am very happy for you!!!!
As for me, he said yes. .and we are about to place our first order and being a cycle next month. I am so HAPPY!!!!!
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well, that is good news.. I am very happy for you!!!! As for me, he said yes. .and we are about to place our first order and being a cycle next month. I am so HAPPY!!!!!Hi dimopoulos,
I am so happy to hear that you are moving forward together. If you don't mind my asking, what finally sealed the deal for your DH? It sounded like he was slipping a bit.
Take care and good luck,
spirosm
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I really don't know exactly what it was that sealed the deal for him.. but I think he was beginning to see how important our marriage was to him and how he was becoming more comfortable with the idea.. so I guess he finally just realized it was that important to me.
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I really don't know exactly what it was that sealed the deal for him.. but I think he was beginning to see how important our marriage was to him and how he was becoming more comfortable with the idea.. so I guess he finally just realized it was that important to me.That is good to hear. Will DH be involved in the donor selection, or is he leaving it to you? Do you know what characteristics you will look for in the donor?
Take care,
spirosm
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well, we have actually already found a donor. My DH is portuguese, so doing a search for that only gave us 3 choices. Even that was quickly narrowed down to one. So last week, we purchased what we hope should be enough to produce two children and had it shipped to the hospital. This week, we have a meeting with the Dr. to schedule all the details and then we wait. It was important to him to have portuguese background. The rest of the traits on that donor were comparable to my husband. I think the mix with this donor will be as close to what could have happened normally.
I think we are both very pleased about the selection and are happy to finally be proceeding together. I am bascially doing all the leg work, with him giving his opinion on things every once in a while. I think this is still very difficult on him, and he is probably just hoping to get past all this stuff here and just have a baby. -
well, we have actually already found a donor. My DH is portuguese, so doing a search for that only gave us 3 choices. Even that was quickly narrowed down to one. So last week, we purchased what we hope should be enough to produce two children and had it shipped to the hospital. This week, we have a meeting with the Dr. to schedule all the details and then we wait. It was important to him to have portuguese background. The rest of the traits on that donor were comparable to my husband. I think the mix with this donor will be as close to what could have happened normally. I think we are both very pleased about the selection and are happy to finally be proceeding together. I am bascially doing all the leg work, with him giving his opinion on things every once in a while. I think this is still very difficult on him, and he is probably just hoping to get past all this stuff here and just have a baby.That's cool. Have you decided whether or not to tell? If so, is your donor ID release? I'm sure that you have reassured your DH that this is your child together and that he is not less of a man, but it couldn't hurt to keep reminding him. He probably could use the support. Good luck and keep us updated!
-spirosm
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hi... i saw this thread and thought i would ask if i could join in. Dh and i are currently doing 2nd ivf cycle. We have mf infertility and have decided to use ds for this cycle. My er is scheduled for tomorrow. dh will be away on a business trip which was a majort factor in deciding to use ds.
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Well, my DH isn't sure on telling. The donor we chose was anonomous so I don't know how that is going to affect things later. My DH doesn't want anyone to know, except the child (maybe) when it is old enough to understand, but he doesn't want to lie to anyone about it. We still have some hills in front of us on that front. Thanks for the advice! I will definitely try to continue telling DH that it is OUR child.. Even now, I try to talk about our future with our children and our lives and our decisions. I am the type of person that will "forget" that we needed help. I have no doubt that once this child is born that everything I do will be with the mindset of my DH being the true father.biyoloji-
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hi... i saw this thread and thought i would ask if i could join in. Dh and i are currently doing 2nd ivf cycle. We have mf infertility and have decided to use ds for this cycle. My er is scheduled for tomorrow. dh will be away on a business trip which was a majort factor in deciding to use ds.Hi biyoloji,
Welcome! What happened in your last IVF cycle? Are you doing a 50/50 split of DS and DH sperm, or only DS? If your DH thought that he might be out of town, he could have frozen a sample or two for the ER. Welcome again and keep us posted.
-spirosm
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hi ladies. dh and i are doing strictly donor sperm. last ivf cycle we got 11 eggs and 5 fertilized with dh sperm only. they had to go to the frozen samplpe and it wasnt great. we only got i really good embie and we think it is a ssperm quality issue. He was not confident that ANY of his sample no matter how many he froze would lead to anything good so we made the decision to just go to the donor. it was a very difficult decision but one we have to have faith in!
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hi ladies. dh and i are doing strictly donor sperm. last ivf cycle we got 11 eggs and 5 fertilized with dh sperm only. they had to go to the frozen samplpe and it wasnt great. we only got i really good embie and we think it is a ssperm quality issue. He was not confident that ANY of his sample no matter how many he froze would lead to anything good so we made the decision to just go to the donor. it was a very difficult decision but one we have to have faith in!Makes sense. By the way, spirosm is not a lady. I'm all boy.
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Sorry spirosm... rookie mistake.
We were able to ge 13 eggs... 12 were mature and we now have 8 embies. now i have to wait for the grade report and go for the transfer tom.
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Sorry spirosm... rookie mistake. We were able to ge 13 eggs... 12 were mature and we now have 8 embies. now i have to wait for the grade report and go for the transfer tom.That is very good. Good luck with the transfer tomorrow!
-spirosm
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Hi all,
I was hoping I could join your group. I have been on this board for a little over a year now- here is our story in short; I married the most wonderful man in the world a few years ago- somoene I waited 36 years to meet. DH has 2 kids from previous marriage- had Vas 5 years ago. We decided since our insurance paid for 1 ivf cycle (and we only wanted one child together) we would go that route vs a reversal. So we did, got pg and m\\c at 10wks. Then in Nov DH had a reversal and it failed. DR was only able to reverse one side due to scar tissue on the other and now it looks like scar tissue on the other. So for another few thousand $$ that we don't have, we can do another reversal and take the chance of it not working again. IVF really is not an option at this point as I did not respond very well to the meds- just now feeling normal (had really bad OHSS). Anyway, here we are wondering what to do next. I would like to look into DS but DH is hesitant. Like others on this board, he wants to have our child- not just a child. He totally understands that I want to have a baby that will be our baby- even if not by genetics.
Sorry for the long ramble but I am just trying to understand his perspective. If the situation were reversed, I would like to believe that I would be willing to do DE if that meant us having a child together- regardless of whether it was genetically mine.
I am curious about the cost of DS- I know what my clinic charges for the IUI but I don't really understand the cost of DS. I thought I read someone say that they bought enough for 2 rounds.
Thanks for reading\\listening and any advice is appreciated.
Thanks,
Holly
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