How many of you would

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  1. I voted before I had my DE baby and I can't remember what I voted but we have a closed relationship because of the clinic policies. Since his birth I really wished we had some information and contact. I wouldn't want to intrude on anyone's life but would love more information and for him to be aware of any siblings he may have.

  2. In a million years, my husband and I never thought that we would ever be comfortable with an open embryo donation situation. We never wanted to pursue domestic adoption for this reason and somehow felt that an open relationship would be intrusive in our lives.
    We had a few people contact us relevant to donating their embryos to us. Through email contact only, we had strong feelings about whether or not we wanted to proceed with these donors. Two of them, we felt, wanted too much from us so, as difficult as it was, we declined the embryos. Then, our current donor contacted us and we felt an immediate connection and a kinship that is beyond description. We talked for a few weeks through email before we made the decision to go forward and just last Thursday, I met our donor and her children for the first time. It was a night I will never forget. Friday, we transferred two blasts and, even if this does not work for us, I know that she will forever be someone I will stay in contact with. If it does work, it will be so nice to know that I can call on her with any medical concerns or family history concerns I have with regard to our children.

    Although it is important for me to have contact with the donor, everyone has to do what feels most comfortable to them and to their families. For some, a closed donation is much more feasible and for others, an open donation is more comfortable. Remember that there are varying degrees of openness.

    Best of luck to all of you pursuing this amazing route to a family.

  3. I think in the UK there is no more anonymous donation. I bet it will be like that in the US also soon enough.

  4. I think in the UK there is no more anonymous donation. I bet it will be like that in the US also soon enough.

    No. I completely disagree. The US believes in the freedom of choice. And they protect the rights of adoptive placing parents to say they want anonymous as well. Same with anonymous egg and anonymous sperm donations as well. At the very least, they can make sure it's completely closed. So you may get some very brief details, but never find their names or get to know them personally. That's why we have shows like "The Locator" To try and find those people who you don't have the information on because they're closed.

    The Czech Republic is completely anonymous, by law. There's no choice in the matter. Doesn't sound like they'll change it soon either.

    BTW, we would chose completely open. But due to a fee increase for open adoptions, we ended up chosing anonymous in the embryo adoption. (Yes, we're doing embryo adoption, through a licensed adoption agency with full homestudy etc.)

  5. I hope you're right Mrs Bonsai, but remember that Supreme Ct decision when they followed EU law?

  6. I hope you're right Mrs Bonsai, but remember that Supreme Ct decision when they followed EU law?

    Not really sure what you're referring to.

    The Supreme court doesn't MAKE laws. They ENFORCE laws.

  7. No--the S Court interprets laws; the executive branch enforces laws. My point was that in interpreting this particular law (i'll look it up) the S Court looked to what the EU courts and legislature were doing for guidance in making their decision. So following through, the US will be looking to the Eu and UK for guidance in making ART guidelines and laws. Which I think its a terrible terrible thing--the EU is hardly a beacon of morality. Or jurisprudence.

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