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  1. So McNasty has the kids during the entire month of July. He e-mailed me yesterday asking what summer arrangements I had made for our 6yo's care during his period of posession. I told him that I had enrolled her at the Y and then, come to find out, he thought I was supposed to pay for their care (all three of them) while they were with him as I receive child support.

    Ummmmm, no..... Divorce decree says he's responsible for their CARE during his visitation so then he tells me he'll be pulling them out, including the twins, of their normal settings to a place of his designation. I go back to the divorce decree and Ummmmmm - NO, I have exclusive right to decide where they go as I'm the primary parent.

    Right about now I'm sure he's twenty shades of red and wanting to beat me but hey, his atty drew up the decree and we simply amended some items and agreed to it.

    Honestly, I'll need the money I save in July to send dd to Y during my periods of posession.

    LMAO. Just had to share a small victory after years of torture and almost a year of him being gone. Woo hoo - I love being literate.

  2. I'm doing a little happy dance for you

    Way to go...

    Take Care~
    Brandi

  3. Sometimes it's nice to see karma unfold.

  4. HA! Good for you!

  5. Good for you. I am sure he wishes he could get child support from you since he will have to do ALL the work for the month.

  6. Wantababy isn't that true. While i do not wish bad on my own nasty X, i do enjoy Karma's funny sense of humour sometimes.

    Good on him A. You deserve a good laugh every once in awhile.

    By the way, what are your plans going to be for that month?

    As an update, my X is still fired from his job, kids ( all 3 ) are STILL not going there as the whole bedbug issue never got cleaned up and he's done nothing about it. So i was driving them to a mall near where he lives and they would spend a few hours together. NOW i refuse to drive the 1/2 hour over, back and over and back SO he refused to see them for a few weeks! Now i will take them to a mall closer to where i live and he can take a bus there.
    Sadly i had to call him last week at 9pm to remind him to call back and wish our eldest a happy bd. She was 14. Think she doesn't see the writing on the wall????????????????????????// Sue

  7. I wouldn't have thought that you would have arranged anything for the kids while they were in HIS care for the month of July. His month, his care, etc. Glad they will get to stay in the same place all summer though so they don't have to get bounced around. Actually surprised he ever agreed to an entire month. He's never had them more than a week so a whole month is going to be a real eye opener. Will you get to see them that month?

    Let this be a great example of what to make sure you get written into divorce decrees. I like the primary parent deciding where kids go to school, camp. etc. My SIL has gone round and round with her DD's father over school choice. He's made her life a living helll.

  8. Well, now I'm back to my atty - $300.00 a ferking hour.

    Decree is confusing. It states that I have EXCLUSIVE Right and Duty to make a decision, the exclusive right to make decisions concerning the children's education.

    Then, you go to the Possession (the above is not under my Possession order) which states "Possession Order "school means the primary or secondary school (OK, they won't be in school) and then goes on to say at a later time that he has extended summer Possession.

    Also, we have rights to confer with the other parent regarding the health, education and welfare of the children.

    We conferred, didn't go well and now he's wanting to pull them out of Y and in-home care to stay with his sister who has an IQ of 70 in his two bedroom apartment during his visitation. BOY, that sounds like a blast for the kids!!!! Great idea slapnuts!

    A&S - these guys are unbelievable to say the least!!!! Nothing shocks me at this point.

    Waiting on atty to respond and I'm banking on my EXCLUSIVE right and duty which is not under any Posession order in the decree. Per the decree, it is my RIGHT!!! I have ten rights and duties and he has 5. BITE ME!!!!

  9. Oh geez, I hope they can stay at the Y at his expense. His plans seem like no fun and very disruptive.

    fabio

  10. A, i am in Nova scotia Canada. I was one of the last here to get full custody, it states in our divorce agreement that i have final decision making power. So i CAN confer with him, i choose not to. He doesn't take them any more. Has not tried to find a job in the YEAR since he was fired. Has done bothing about the bb's SO bite me too!

    They are 14, 12 , 12 now. They know that dh is their dad, just not their biological one. IF he cared , or parented at all in any way i wouldn't stand in the way. BUT he tried to convince us to let my dh adopt the kids. THAT WOULD LET HIM OFF THE HOOK FINANCIALLY. Also he tried to promise me an inheritance he will get when his dad's wife dies SOMEDAY. In return for allowing him to stop making payments. HA. He was there to help make them... you catch my drift. Sue

  11. A, i am in Nova scotia Canada. I was one of the last here to get full custody, it states in our divorce agreement that i have final decision making power. So i CAN confer with him, i choose not to. He doesn't take them any more. Has not tried to find a job in the YEAR since he was fired. Has done bothing about the bb's SO bite me too!They are 14, 12 , 12 now. They know that dh is their dad, just not their biological one. IF he cared , or parented at all in any way i wouldn't stand in the way. BUT he tried to convince us to let my dh adopt the kids. THAT WOULD LET HIM OFF THE HOOK FINANCIALLY. Also he tried to promise me an inheritance he will get when his dad's wife dies SOMEDAY. In return for allowing him to stop making payments. HA. He was there to help make them... you catch my drift. Sue

    BF would adopt all of them in a nano-second. He'd love to be a PARENT.

    Ya know, one of HUGE fears is that his idiot sis will try to take them swimming on her own. 6yo and twin 2.5 yo's - I'm already shittingmypants just thinking about it.

    Still waiting on atty to call or e-mail. I really do not care what this costs me at this point. We can go back and file a motion to amend if need be.

  12. I hope you get it settled. Yes swimming is a worry. I have a friend who's husband sometimes takes his 2 girls swimming and he is very A.D.D. I end up watching them as he's off to the hot tub and all over the place checking out the bikini's. His wife is always teaching dance. Her own company so she's gone a lot. Scary for sure.

    My dh is SO good to them. We can't afford to go through the adoption process. If they were small.. we would. They know he loves them like his own. Right now they are in kitchen chatting and he's helping with homework. On the weekend i was doing yoga and near died when i heard him talking to them from a book, about the worries of STD's! Stuff he's usually pretty clam shut about. He is very shy.. he is just trying to do right by them. I am lucky for sure.

    Hope you get it worked out soon hon. Sue

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