Cycling with DE Feb/March 2010

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  1. (success mentioned/children mentioned)

    Hi ladies!

    Looking for those who would like some company while we do IVF #3 with donor eggs.

    Alittle bit about me: I'm 39, DH 37. We were successful on IVF #2 w/DE and are blessed with identical twins boys. We did two back to back FETs cycles this year, both unsuccessful (1 chemical, 1 - BFN) . We don't have any more snowbabies left so we went back to our agency to ask our donor if she would cycle for us again and she accepted!! We couldn't be more thrilled!!

    Our clinic closes for the month of December so it looks like we will cycle in Feb/March, hopefully with a March transfer. I am still waiting for AF after my last failed FET and I will start BCPs. Just getting all the paperwork in order then the testing will begin. Our donor cycled recently (July 09) so most of her labs are current, that should save alot of time and expense, I hope.

    I know this journey can be a stressful and difficult one so I welcome anyone who would like the company!

    For now...HAPPY HOLIDAYS! And CHEERS to success in 2010!!
    Cathy

    UPDATED * OUR GROUP * ANYONE WELCOME TO JOIN!!

    makrakis/Cathy 39yo
    history: 3 m/c's, 1 chemical: conceived naturally
    IVF#1 w/own eggs-BFN
    IVF#2 w/DE - Donor takes trigger shot on wrong nite! Eggs destroyed
    IVF #3 w/DE - ID twin boys

    FET#1 - chemnical
    FET#2 - BFN (no more frosties)

    gearing up for IVF#4 w/DE (same donor; now 28yo) Feb 2010
    Donor starts stims - 2/6
    ER 2/18 - 22 eggs retrieved/16 fertilized
    2/21 update: All 16 all Grade As and B's
    ET 2/23 - Tx 2 Grade 1 AB Blasts. 8 snowbabies
    +HPT on 3/6! i46.tinypic.com/f9qbn8.jpg
    1st Beta 3/8 - 1,493
    2nd Beta 3/11 - 3,439
    3rd Beta 3/15 - 9,931
    1st u/s 3/22

    Eiichiro/Dale
    Me, 41. Dh, 50. No children. Ever .
    FSH 12.7
    MF issues (low sperm count, 1.9 m, and 17 percent motility)
    IVF #1, 8-08, two eggs, one fertilized, BFN
    IVF #2, 10-08, three eggs, two fertilized, BFN
    Hysteroscopy, 2-09, removed scar tissue and two cysts blocking my tubes. Other than that, healthy uterus.
    IVF #3, 10-09, two eggs, no fertilization

    Now on to SDFC for a big, fat miracle--early February!
    Feb 19th - donor starts stims & recipient baseline (donor 27 yo)
    ER - 1/31 (37 eggs, 26 mature, 19 fertilized!)
    ET - 2/5 - Tx 2 perfect blasts. 1 snowbaby
    Beta - 2/15 - 299.2
    Beta - 2/17 - 694
    1st u/s 3/3 - 1 healthy bean! hb 135bmp
    2nd u/s 3/10 (7w3d) TWINS!!

    3rd u/s 3/18 - Lost Baby B
    Baby A thriving!! hb 178bpm

    Vasilatou
    me 42, DH 43
    3 x ivf (OE) locally - 1 bio, 1 BFN, 1 x ectopic
    2 x ivf (OE) Cornell - BFN
    1 x DE - Cornell - DS
    donor starts stims - 2/15.
    ER - 2/25 - 12 retrieved/11 mature/8 fertilized.
    1st Beta 3/10 - 77
    chemical

    payphone/Monica
    35 yo.
    DS & DD from 1st marriage
    TTC for 2 years & 3 IVFs
    Donor starts stims 2/21
    ER - 3/3
    ET - 3/8 - Tx 2 blasts!! 7 snowbabies
    BFN

    jahman/Lori 37yo
    History: Poor Responder, .3 amh, 9.9 FSH, 3 m/c's, 2 from IVF's, 1 natural/unplanned/ectopic

    IVF#1(3/07): OE, BFP, m/c 8.5 wks
    IVF#2(7/07): OE, ET cancelled, all embryos arrested
    IVF#3(11/07): OE, BFP, m/c 6.5 wks
    Natural pg(3/08): Found at 6.5 wks, saw HB, Ectopic from IVF scarring, Lap to remove
    IVF#4(7/08): OE, BFN
    IVF#5(11/08): OE, BFN
    IVF#6(9/09): OE, I cancelled at Stim day 13, going too slow, I'm done
    DE#1: Mar/April 2010, Donor age 25, 1x proven 36 eggs-21 mature, cycling at ORM
    3/1 Estimated Lupron Start Lupron, Donor starts stims 3/21, 4/1 Estimated ER, 4/6 Estimated ET

    "alexvas"/Lo 44yo
    History:
    6 IUI's/Femara - BFN
    Split cycle DE...Got 7 eggs and 5 matured nicely
    IVF#1 w/DE - x-ferred 1 (4aa) - BFN
    FET#1 - x-ferred 1 - BFN
    FET#2 - x-ferred 1 - BFN
    FET#3 - x-ferred 2 - BFN

    Now planning IVF#2 w/DE: what does one do with all this wanting?

    nadia_f/Shannon 35yo
    IVF#1 own eggs - DD born 2006
    IVF#2 chemical, IVF#3 chemical, IVF#4 BFN
    DE #1 and #2 chemicals - both cycles poor response from donor.
    DE #3 - New clinic - SDFC for March

    kaditya
    Me(42), DH (35)
    OE IVF#1 FSH 8.9, 3 day 5 embryos transfer with M/C and D&C at 9 weeks in Dec'08
    OE IVF#2 FSH 10.2 OE cycle cancelled due to low response in Mar'09
    DE IVF#3 with Sis (she's 39 year old). 25 mature, trf 3 blastocyst with 9 frosties. BFN.

    peter.ivanic/41 yo
    1 IUI in 2006, DH could not produce sperm, IUI cancelled. (Boston IVF)
    2nd IUI in 2006, BFN. (Boston IVF)
    OE IVF - cancelled, poor response to meds. (Reprod. Science Ctr)
    2nd OE IVF - 1 fresh embryo transferred on Christmas Day 2007, no pressure! BFN, no frozens. (Reproductive Science Ctr)
    3rd IVF OE - 4 fresh embryos transferred, BFN, no frozens. (Boston IVF)
    4th IVF DE Feb 2009 - 3 fresh transferred, BFN, no frozens (Boston IVF)

    SWITCHED CLINICS AGAIN BUT TO SDFC!
    Cycling in the summer!

  2. Hi Cathy, I'd like some company also.
    I am 37 and DH is 39. We are embarking on our first DE cycle after many years of IVF failures (m/c's, BFN's, ectopic).
    I think we will be cycling in February at ORM, we already picked our donor, who is two times proven, from an agency and paid all the fees less her donor fees. I am excited at doing something that may possibly work, it will be nice not to go through the stimming and the heartache all that brings.
    I originally was going to cycle close to home but I've been getting bad vibes so I don't want to risk that much money on anything that is subpar, hence moving to ORM. I have a phone consult with Dr. Hesla on Monday so I hope that goes well. We have had every test know to man done so I think the process should go quick. I think the only thing we have to do is have a psych consult and we should be good to go. Our communicables should still be good, but I think the donor will have to do hers closer to the actual date. She cycled in September so she has all of her other testing done.
    I hope we can form a little group here!

  3. I would like to join you ladies! I am so happy that there is a board for later cycles!

    I am 41, DH is in his 50's. We cycled 4 times with my own eggs - all BFN. Went to DE at Boston IVF. Chose an unproven donor. Transfer was last Feb. BFN and no frozens. Big disappointment. Now using San Diego Fertility Center as I found at Boston IVF has low success rates relatively. Have chosen donor who is 5 times proven and is in house. Trying to buy a house now too! We will do the success guarantee program and if that doesn't work, surrogacy.

    We will have fun on this board and great luck for 2010!

  4. Can I join too? I am 35 and DH is almost 39. We got lucky with IVF1 in 2005 and have an almost 4 year old DD but have tried 3 times with OE since and had 2 chemicals. We moved to DE with local clinic and have had 2 dismal DE cycles, 2 chemicals. When I got my records and learned more about the donors, turns out they were almost as old as me. Feel like we totally wasted a year but are transferring clinics. We are headed to San Diego also. We are hoping to cycle during my spring break in March. Haven't chosen a donor because they want us to wait closer to actual cycle but we plan on choosing a proven donor. We're going to do the success guarantee plan to so sounds like we have a lot in common Christie.

    Shannon

  5. Welcome Christie and Shannon!

    Shannon, I can't believe they gave you donors that were in their 30's. Didn't they give you that information when they presented you with the donors? I would be mad too. Well you are on top better things now so I'm sure you will have better luck in San Diego.

  6. Hi Ladies - I have talked to some of you in the past and I just wanted to wish you all the best with your coming cycles. They will be here before you know it. I too cycled at SDFC - after dismal results at a clinic near us - and the experience was great. We did the success plan, first time donor, had lots of eggs and embryos and although fresh didn't work, the first fet did. I am not 12 weeks pregnant with twins. We had decided if the FET hadn't worked we would turn to surrogacy, but ended up not needing to go that route.

    Regardless of where you end up cycling, I wish you all the best. There are some great clinics out there, SDFC and ORM certainly being amongst the best, so you are in very good hands.

    I look forward to seeing how things go in the coming months. Fingers and toes crossed for all of you.

    Best -

    A

  7. Thanks Amshel! Congrats on your little ones!

  8. WOW! Welcome ladies!! I didn't think I would get such a great response and thought I may have been posting too early. Glad I did!

    jahman - How did your consult go? Doesn't it feel great to move onto to something that has so much hope and promise! Thats exactly how I felt when we cycled the first time with our donor. Good luck at the psych consult. I was nervous when we went to ours, but it went just fine. Thankfully we don't have to go thru that again. I'm sure you'll do just great. Did you find your donor thru an agency? Is she anon?

    Christie - I am so sorry your last DE cycle was a BFN. Major huge disappointment. I can't believe you didn't have any frozens either. Not sure if I blame the donor or not, I beleive the clinic is responsible for how well or poorly they stim. I've heard San Diego has the highest success rates! This is going to be it for you! Good luck on buying a new home! How exciting!! Have you found anything yet?

    strochs - can't believe your clinic paired you up with a donor that was so close in age. Glad you are switching clinics. You and Christie are going to have success at San Diego.

    amshel - Congrats on your pregnancy!!

    AFM: Alittle more about our situation...when we found out that our donor would cycle for us again, we found out that she cycled 4 more times after us!! She was unproven when she cycled for us. The agency knew how 3 of those cycles ended which were a set of fraternal twin girls, triplet girls (another pair of ID twins) and a singleton, and a singleton. Apparently they didn't have the results from her 2nd cycle. Our donor is such a doll too, she even lowered her compensation $1000. She is so sweet, we just love her. She is anon but we communicate through cards and gifts.

    We met with our RE this past Monday and it went very well. He was able to give us some closure on why the FETs didn't work and was very excited for us that we were able to cycle again with the same donor. We've been seeing our RE since Oct 06 so we've gotten pretty close over the past few years, he is such a nice man. We also asked if he could give us a discount on the cycle since we are paying out of pocket and he agreed that he could. I don't expect it to be alot but every little bit helps. Most of my testing is pretty current with the exception of some minor bloodwork they'll do next year. Not much else I guess, just waiting for some more paperwork from the agency and we expect to sign consents in December so we can have a nice tax write-off.

    I'm looking foward to cycling with you ladies and spending the rest of year talking about our pregnancies together!!

    We'll be home for Thanksgiving this year. You ladies have any special plans? Cooking at home? Eating out this year?

    Cathy

  9. Cathy
    It sounds like your donor is great, she has a pretty nice track record. That's nice that you are going to get a discount, I'm always to chicken to ask for something like that.

    The phone consult went really well. Dr. Hesla is really nice and easy to talk with. The only bummer is that he said I had to fly out there for a pre-ccyle visit even though I have all of my testing done. I am going to try to wriggle out of that because thats $500 in travel I don't need to be spending. Also, the donor has to go out there for a pre-cycle visit so I have to pay for that also.

    Have a great Thanksgiving everyone!

  10. jahman - I'm surprised they are making you fly out for a pre-cycle? What do they want to test? That's to bad, I hope you can get out of that.

    Cathy - Wow, your donor sounds fantastic. What a nice person and track record. I hear you on the tax write-off. Part of the reason we're cycling in March is so that we can re-up our flex spending tor the new year. Great on asking for the discount.

    AFM - Yeah, can you believe my old clinic. I was shocked at some of the things in my records when I looked. They were really big on keeping everything a secret and so they matched us with the donor and would only tell us about her after a pregnancy (shared between to recipients. If we wanted more info, we would have had to pay more) In hind-site, bad idea on our part. But so glad we are moving on now. We are headed to my aunt's tomorrow for thanksgiving. DH has to work Friday so we're just going for the day. But should be nice anyways.

    HAve a great holiday everyone.

    Shannon

  11. HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE!!

  12. I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving!!!!!

    nadia_f - we have been on the same board in the past! I know that we will do really well with our new doctors and clinic.

    Amshel - so exciting about your twins!!! I am hoping to have twins! I love hearing success stories!

    Diamond - so exciting about ORM. They are an AMAZING clinic! Can you do some testing at a facility close to home? San Diego is letting me do a uterine evaluation test at a competing clinic. They competing clinic is here in RI but they will do it for San Diego. The good part is my insurance covers the competing clinic but not San Diego so at least that will save me some money and also the money to travel.

    Jade - that's really exciting about your donor's history. The donor I am choosing also has a good track record. After my last experience, I need that reassurance.

    I hope everyone has a great day!

  13. Hope everyone had a nice holiday!

    Christie - Yeah, going forward with a donor that's proven definitely helps give that reassurance. When we cycled with our donor the 1st time, it was her 1st cycle so needless to say, we were a bit worried at the time but went for it anyway, so glad we did. Hopefully she hasn't cycled too many times to give us bad eggs. We always worry about something, don't we? My RE doesn't think so and she is only 28yo now.

    nadia_f - that clinic sounds "funny". Want more info = pay more money, doesn't sound right. Glad you moved on. I was suprised at how much information we now have on our donor and was a bit surprised she cycled so many times after us. On her profile she mentioned she was going to cycle one time. Guess she changed her mind. Hope you enjoyed time at your Aunt's house.

    jahman - hope you can get out of the pre-cycle visit. That seems unecessary to me.

    AFM: Thanksgiving was nice. Ate too much of course. We recieved the legal papers/contract from the law firm on Friday, and as always, everything looked on the up and up and we signed them and sent them back for Monday delivery. Now we wait for the final paperwork and costs for the donor from the agency, get that out and then consents and pay for the cycle sometime in December.

    Anyone have any special plans for Christmas?

    Oh, I'm going to get a 1-hour massage at noon today then stop by the mall to pick up a gift for our donor for Christmas. Is anyone else getting they're donor gifts?

    I would like to offer to make a chart of everyone's information, to help us keep track of everyone and where we are in our cycles as we move forward.
    If you ladies are interested, go ahead and PM me whatever information you want listed and I'll keep track of things for us.

    maybe something like this. suggestions welcome!

    makrakis/Cathy 39yo
    history: 3 m/c's, 1 chemical: conceived naturally
    IVF#1 w/own eggs-BFN
    IVF#2 w/DE - Donor takes trigger shot on wrong nite! Eggs destroyed
    IVF #3 w/DE - ID twin boys

    FET#1 - chemnical
    FET#2 - BFN (no more frosties)

    gearing up for IVF#4 w/DE (same donor 28yo) Feb/March

    Cathy

  14. I'm gearing up for a new fresh DE cycle, which will take place at SDFC Jan or Feb. May I join your group?

    This will be my second IVF/DE. In Spring-Summer I cycled at FIRM, never got pg through 1 fresh and 3 frozen cycles: all eSET except for the last FET (x-ferred two). Prior to that, 6 IUI's - again all bfn (not even a chemical). Went straight to IVF/DE - didn't try OE. I'm single, 44, really want a singleton though the question of x-ferring 1 vs. 2 is stressful for me: I so want that higher success rate that x-ferring 2 promises.

    I've chosen a proven donor. Cathy - is it possible (as you mentioned) that a donor can have donated too much in the past & eggs would now be bad? Yikes. Mine's cycled 8 times, recipients all got pg. (She's also 28, thereabouts.) I asked the doc about her having cycled 8 times in re to whether that's bad for her body, and he said no. I didn't think of the egg quality to come.

    I went on BC pills 2 weeks ago just to be ready (I'll do a sono HSG with my local RE as soon as they can get me in). I've been spotting (light) for a few days: has anyone experienced that on BC?

    FIRM had uncovered a clotting disorder and beta3 integrin being "out of phase," so they'll be med's (Lovenox) and adjustments for these.

    amshel - Hi from the PVED board. I always appreciate your sharing your story and offering support to others not yet pg!

    nadia_f - I hate the way our files are kept a secret...from us. I'm glad to hear that you've moved on to a different clinic.

    christie - We're SDFC (and success guarantee) buddies! Dr. Hummel is my doc. I've been pleased w/ everyone there so far.

    jahman - I like ORM too and might have gone w/ them if they'd let me do their refund program (can't do if one has failed a DE cycle before).

    All best wishes - it's a beautiful Fall day here in Tennessee. --alexvas

    "alexvas"/Lo 44yo
    History:
    6 IUI's/Femara - BFN
    Split cycle DE...Got 7 eggs and 5 matured nicely
    IVF#1 w/DE - x-ferred 1 (4aa) - BFN
    FET#1 - x-ferred 1 - BFN
    FET#2 - x-ferred 1 - BFN
    FET#3 - x-ferred 2 - BFN

    Now planning IVF#2 w/DE: what does one do with all this wanting?

  15. peter.ivanic
    I don't have any testing to do except that I will need an u/s and b/w right before I fly out for the ET. I am going to contact my OB about getting that done at is office, maybe I can save some dough.
    That is so cool that your insurance covers the competing clinic, that has got to be nice to have some of the money issue taken out of this. Do you have to go out to SDFC at all before your ET?

    alexvas
    Welcome! There seems to be a run on SDFC gals here. It really sounds like you know what you are doing. Your donor also sounds like she is REALLY proven. You have to be happy with her track record.

  16. Hi Ladies!

    I'm on another board, Jan/Feb, but I see a good number of fellow SDFC'ers. May I join you here, too, or is that poor chat group etiquette? It's inspiring to see so many of you going to the same clinic.

    I'm in the final phases of becoming an "official" patient with SDFC--transferring from CNY Syracuse. After my phone consult with Dr. Hummel Monday afternoon, I hope to make it official.

    Afm, dh and I have been ttc for over six years. I have three failed IVFs and now we're moving on to real hope! We've got our sights on a donor that we like, it's now a matter of making the whole process real by completing all the necessary steps and getting to the cycle calendar. We're hoping for an end of January or early February transfer.

    Our prospective donor is new, which is a little scary. If we're not approved for the Success Guarantee, we're back to square one in the donor search. I feel I can take a slight risk with an unproven if we have a guarantee. Seems that we have a lot of balls in the air right now and I can't wait for some of them to land. I just need to feel like I'm on my way--finally.

    I got my mock cycle out of the way; passed with flying colors. Yippee! That's one thing down. Right now, I'm praying very hard that a recent breast biopsy turns out to be nothing. I'll know Monday. One thing at a time, right!

    May we all have great success!!!

    Hi Shannon and alexvas!

    Dale

  17. Hi Dale and alexvas - Good to have both of you join us. A lot of us new SDFCers isn't there. I can't wait for the good news from this board. Dale - Glad you found donor you like and the mock is done. I've been thinking of you and hope you find out all the worry re the biopsy has been for nothing.

    Diamond - I have done all of my monitoring b/w and u/s at my OB for all of my recent cycles. If they are familiar with doing IUIs they should have no trouble with this for you. Easier than trying to go to a different RE.

    alexvas - I'm considering donors that have donated 7-8 times too. I don't think SDFC would let them continue if they weren't continuing to do well. I also like that SDFC requires they take some time off in between donating. That is probably important for their bodies. We are having a beautiful fall day here today too. Even more amazing that we are in MN.

    Cathy - Thanks for offering to make the chart. I always like having them to help keep track of things, but I'm bad at making them. I hope you enjoyed your massage - sounds like such a nice treat during the crazy holidays. We will probably get our donor something small closer to the time. But I am so awful at deciding what to get or what to write. Sigh, so hard to adequately thank them for what they are doing for us.

    Hi Christie - Isn't is nice to know we are at a better place now.

    So we had a great thanksgiving. Ate to much like usual but really nice to see some family. Then yesterday went out and braved some stores. Got myself new pots and pans which I am very excited about. So nice to have the holidays now to distract me until March gets closer.

    nadia_f/Shannon 35yo
    IVF#1 own eggs - DD born 2006
    IVF#2 chemical, IVF#3 chemical, IVF#4 BFN
    DE #1 and #2 chemicals - both cycles poor response from donor.
    DE #3 - New clinic - SDFC for March

  18. makrakis/Cathy 39yo
    history: 3 m/c's, 1 chemical: conceived naturally
    IVF#1 w/own eggs-BFN
    IVF#2 w/DE - Donor takes trigger shot on wrong nite! Eggs destroyed
    IVF #3 w/DE - ID twin boys

    FET#1 (DE) - chemical
    FET#2 (DE) - BFN (no more frosties)

    gearing up for IVF#4 w/DE (same donor 28yo/proven 5x's) Feb/March

    "alexvas"/Lo 44yo
    History:
    6 IUI's/Femara - BFN
    Split cycle DE...Got 7 eggs and 5 matured nicely
    IVF#1 w/DE - x-ferred 1 (4aa) - BFN
    FET#1 - x-ferred 1 - BFN
    FET#2 - x-ferred 1 - BFN
    FET#3 - x-ferred 2 - BFN

    Now planning IVF#2 w/DE: what does one do with all this wanting?

    nadia_f/Shannon 35yo
    IVF#1 own eggs - DD born 2006
    IVF#2 chemical, IVF#3 chemical, IVF#4 BFN
    DE #1 and #2 chemicals - both cycles poor response from donor.
    DE #3 - New clinic - SDFC for March

    jahman/Lori 37yo
    History: Poor Responder, .3 amh, 9.9 FSH, 3 m/c's, 2 from IVF's, 1 natural/unplanned/ectopic

    IVF#1(3/07): OE, BFP, m/c 8.5 wks
    IVF#2(7/07): OE, ET cancelled, all embryos arrested
    IVF#3(11/07): OE, BFP, m/c 6.5 wks
    Natural pg(3/08): Found at 6.5 wks, saw HB, Ectopic from IVF scarring, Lap to remove
    IVF#4(7/08): OE, BFN
    IVF#5(11/08): OE, BFN
    IVF#6(9/09): OE, I cancelled at Stim day 13, going too slow, I'm done
    DE#1: Jan/Feb 2010, Donor age 25, 2x proven 27 & 25 eggs, cycling at ORM

  19. nadia_f - no prob on the chart I like doing it and it'll help keep us track of each other. Oh, the massage was great, I really needed it. I have chronic neck pain and the doctors really don't seem to know why. Its been frustrating. Now they say its the SCM muscle in my neck causing all this pain. I go for an eval Tues with a physical therapist and massage therapist to see if I can get treatment covered under insurance. The massage therapist I see now is wonderful and does alot of acupressure. I know what you mean about what to get the donor's. I really have a tough time of what to write but since we've been down this road with her before I feel alot less nervous about what to get her. Its so hard to thank someone for such a generous and selfless gift. We were originally going to get her a couple of gift cards but I thought it seemed a bit impersonal so I bought this pretty charm necklace at THINGS REMEMBERED and had the words HOPE, FAITH, LOVE engraved on it. It came out really pretty, I hope she likes it.
    http://www.thingsremembered.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/TRproduct_10001_9951_637198____4823___?occasionId= _1_~|~|~|~|~|~

    WELCOME Dale!! Glad you joined our group! The more the merrier!! lots of SDFC'ers on here. Cool that you gals have that in common. Wow, 6 years is a long time. Your time is overdue! this cycle is going to be it for you! Glad you found a donor you both like. Are you going thru your clinic or an agency? I know what you mean by feeling nervous about going with an unproven donor. Our donor was unproven/1st timer when we cycled but we felt she was the right match for us so we stayed the course. We just figured a donor has to start somewhere right? 5 cycles later, out of those 4 have ended in pregnancies/births, not sure about 1 of them. I know what you mean about having alot of things in the air. Once the paperwork is dotted and signed everything will fall into place. I know the wait can seem like forever. I'll be keeping you in my prayers that your biopsy turns out to be nothing.

    WELCOME alexvas! Sorry for all the disappointments you've been through. I know how hard it is to decide on how many embies to transfer. After having id twin boys, we thought for sure we would only tx 1 embie when we did our FETs, but we went for it and tx'd 2 each time and ended up with 1 chemical and 1 BFN. I do think a donor can donate too many times but I think most REs limit how many times a woman can donate her eggs. I do not think your donor donating 8 times is too much and she likely has plenty of good eggs to go around. My RE didn't seem concered about that at all, so I won't worry about it either. Do you know if the recipients had live births? I was on Lovenox when I was pg with the boys. It isn't too much of a big deal but was pretty bruised up on my legs after a while.

    AFM: not much else. Feeling pretty tired from shopping today and everything else going on. Glad we got a nice group going here.

    Have a good weekend ladies
    Cathy

  20. Dale
    Welcome to our group. I understand about having a bunch of balls in the air at the same time and just waiting for them to land. I think once we actually cross over the DE decision bridge it is hard not to want everything done NOW. No one is moving fast enough for me. I hope the biopsy turns out okay.

    Jade
    Thanks for the chart! I have trouble remembering everybody so that is perfect.

  21. Hi Ladies, I hope I can join too. I had a good thanksgiving and getting ready for my trip to visit in-laws out the country in mid-december. Once I get my AF in mid-Jan, I will get ready for FET with my sister's frozen embryo/DH sperm.

    Here's my story.

    Me(42), DH (35)
    OE IVF#1 FSH 8.9, 3 day 5 embryos transfer with M/C and D&C at 9 weeks in Dec'08
    OE IVF#2 FSH 10.2 OE cycle cancelled due to low response in Mar'09
    DE IVF#3 with Sis (she's 39 year old). 25 mature, trf 3 blastocyst with 9 frosties. BFN.

    I have 4 day 6 blastocysts and 5 day 7 blastocysts (these seem crappy but embryologist thought they were worth freezing).

    I would love to try with OE again with FSH at 10/11 but had limited funds and sister offered to try no problem (her FSH was 5.5 and lots of resting follicles). I really want FET to work in Jan/Feb. I expect AF on Jan 16th, then FET 17 -19 days after that. I'm still in shock that fresh 3 DE blastocysts trf'd didn't work. My DX is blocked tubes. Had saline sonogram in Nov'09. RE said everything looks good. I just need egg that want to make my uterus it's home.

    I'm glad that i can enjoy my holidays this year (had D&C 2 days before Xmas last year) and start 2010 with a BFP in Feb. This is my prayer.

  22. Hello, everyone!!!

    Dale - your test will turn out just fine. My best friend just had that done and -0-, nothing, zilch. Doctors love to do tests to cover themselves and be careful.

    RE: cycling. Dr. Kettel is my RE and I believe his nurse practictioner, Chris, said they let them cycle up to 10 times.

    Welcome all the newcomers! I am getting excited but have some questions? First of all, SDFC is so much more thorough than Boston IVF was. They want me to do a uterine evaluation when I get my AF which should be any day. Then, they said I can be matched with my donor. We are paying 90% out of pocket and just moved. I sold some antiques and am waiting to for a check. Do they let you spread out payments?? My donor's fee is quite high because she is several times proven. Also, will they have me do a mock cycle? I know I should know this.

    I don't have to go to SDFC until the ET they have told me.

    I am in Rhode Island and it is a beautiful, sunny day! Looking at the ocean right now!

    My history is:

    1 IUI in 2006, DH could not produce sperm, IUI cancelled. (Boston IVF)
    2nd IUI in 2006, BFN. (Boston IVF)
    OE IVF - cancelled, poor response to meds. (Reprod. Science Ctr)
    2nd OE IVF - 1 fresh embryo transferred on Christmas Day 2007, no pressure! BFN, no frozens. (Reproductive Science Ctr)
    3rd IVF OE - 4 fresh embryos transferred, BFN, no frozens. (Boston IVF)
    4th IVF DE Feb 2009 - 3 fresh transferred, BFN, no frozens (Boston IVF)

    Out of pocket : 60K??

    SWITCHED CLINICS AGAIN BUT TO SDFC!

  23. RE: drinking alcohol. When you are in cycle...donor on stims, etc., should you only have like 2 drinks/week? I seem to recall my friend sending me a report from a BBC link that alcohol has a negative effect on implantation. Of course we all know not to overdo it but how much is acceptable if any? I just cannot afford emotionally to blame myself for anything going wrong in this cycle.

  24. I forgot to say 2 things: I am 41 and will be 42 when transfer takes place. Also, Boston IVF said they did not think my donor was "optimal." I have emailed the donor source to ask if she is still a donor. For some reason, if she is not, I would feel better that the BFN was not my fault. Doctor had said embryo development was very poor. SDFC is retested DH's sperm.

  25. Pepsi
    That is so great that you are able to do DE with your sister's eggs. I'm jealous. I understand you wanting to try again with OE but I also understand the funding issue. To date we are $99,000 OOP That is not ncluding this upcoming DE, so I think we will bust into the 6 figure club soon. Just sucks that the way you create your family can be dictated by cost.
    Have you had immune testing done (anti-phospholipid anti-body, NK) or a RPL panel run? Maybe there is an underlying problem that could be easily fixed, like MTHR?

    Christie
    That's nice that you do not have to go out there until ET, saves some money. I am trying to get out of a required pre-cycle visit at ORM.

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