Complications after egg retrieval. Please help with decision?

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  1. brown splotting is completely normal, and even some red spotting can occur- it doesn't mean things aren't going well. The advice usually is if ther is any red blood, lie down and rest. An u/s today will be a good thing- it will hopefully give you the news you need. i am praying for you. Many women have fresh bleeding in the first trimester and go on to have very healthy normal pregnancies. IF she has a sch (subchorionic hematoma) they will put her on bed rest until is subsides. I am hoping all is fine for you guys_ I really think you deserve it more than me. I hope we all get our dreams.

    I get fert report tomorrow- let us know how it goes tomorrow, prayers, and hugs.
    Jen

  2. I have been following this thread and must say you seem like a very compassionate and innformed husband-your wife is a lucky lady to have someone who truly cares and is looking for supportive people to get advice from....add me to the list of people praying for your wife and you to have the family of your dreams! Good luck. To you both-take care of that lady-she's going to need as much support she can get throughout the pg.....sounds like you are just the right guy to step up and help and get the awnsers you both need.....and anytime you have a question the ladies here are so chock full of useful information-you will be amazed at how much support you'll find. Wishing you the best outcome and please keep us posted. Cheers!

  3. Hopeful- on pins and needles- thinking about you guys.
    jen

  4. Hopeful- on pins and needles- thinking about you guys.jen

    Hi Jen, thanks a lot for asking and wondering. I got home about an hour ago. Long day. So, today we went in for the ultrasound and found out that there are 2 in there. You were right. No heartbeat seen yet, but they told us before the exam that they wouldn't see one.
    More WAITING! They did see the fetal pole, measured 5.6 weeks and the beginnings of a yolk sac. The nurse said that she would like to see us next Wednesday to look for the heartbeat. Both nurses said that it was looking good...But, my wife and I have heard this before. It's going to be a long week of waiting...How are you doing?

    As of 10/28, HCG= 15,410

    Praying at least 3 times a day.

  5. holy sh+t- great repeat beta- and yes- what you saw on u/s is exactly what you want to see at this point- great that they saw a developing fetal pole. Hang in there- i know how hard it is for the wait- but that is a great number for where you guys are. I will continue to pray for you both and those little beans to keep growing on target.

    as of today 8 fertilized eggs- will hear back tomorrow about how they are growing and transfer time on friday.

    Stay strong- and keep your head up.
    Jen

  6. holy sh+t- great repeat beta- and yes- what you saw on u/s is exactly what you want to see at this point- great that they saw a developing fetal pole. Hang in there- i know how hard it is for the wait- but that is a great number for where you guys are. I will continue to pray for you both and those little beans to keep growing on target.as of today 8 fertilized eggs- will hear back tomorrow about how they are growing and transfer time on friday. Stay strong- and keep your head up.Jen

    Wow, 8 fertilized eggs is great. We will be praying that those guys grow and grow. Make sure to come back to let us know how the transfer goes.

    So, yesterday after the appointment they told my wife that she might bleed a little...But she didn't. Today we went to a funeral, 32 year old friend. Depressing. Anyway, she started to bleed quite a bit. It made a big spot on her underwear. I'm not sure how you measure amounts of bleeding, but it we've been nervous ever since. It stopped, but then when she went to the bathroom, more dripped in the toilet. Any advice what to do? Should we be in panic mode now?

  7. Hopeful- if they thought she would bleed- they were expecting it- i would have her rest in bed over the weekend- hydrate well, it should go away- i would let them know- the on call people if it doesn't let up. The cervix is very vascular- and so is the whole female area- doing progesterone- just an u/s can irritate something in there. If she isn't having any major cramping- i think she is fine. Hang in there- what a rollercoaster ride.

    5 growing normal embryo\"s, we have 3 ( perfect 4 cells), 1 (almost perfect 4 cell) and 1 ( almost perfect 2 cell).

    Plan to put back the 3 best tomorrow if they are 8 and 7's, if less then will do 4.

    Jen

  8. Hopeful- if they thought she would bleed- they were expecting it- i would have her rest in bed over the weekend- hydrate well, it should go away- i would let them know- the on call people if it doesn't let up. The cervix is very vascular- and so is the whole female area- doing progesterone- just an u/s can irritate something in there. If she isn't having any major cramping- i think she is fine. Hang in there- what a rollercoaster ride.5 growing normal embryo\"s, we have 3 ( perfect 4 cells), 1 (almost perfect 4 cell) and 1 ( almost perfect 2 cell).Plan to put back the 3 best tomorrow if they are 8 and 7's, if less then will do 4.Jen

    Jen,
    Good luck with all those embryos. Wow, I can't believe they are going to possibly put 3 or 4 in there. My wife and I have been praying for you and will continue to. Keep us posted.

    As for us, I'm hoping that this bleeding thing will go away. Earlier this afternoon when we were at my best friend's girlfriend's funeral (so sad), she had one spurt that was the scariest. Then, she had some little leaks throughout the day. No major cramping though. I wish I could feel these pains and discomforts for her. When she is experiencing all of this I'm feeling very helpless and frustrated. We didn't call the RE today, but might call if it happens again tomorrow. She has some brown globs down there now. I wish they didn't congratualate us as much when we were in on Wednesday. I would do anything to finally be a dad.

  9. Jen,

    How\'d it go today? Hopefully, it was great and you're resting. Just wanted to stop by and tell you that my wife and I are thinking and praying for you.

  10. Hopeful- transferred the 3 best yest. Perfect 8 cell, almost perfect 8 cell and a 7 cell with minimal fragmentation. I am scared I want this to work so bad- but just no gurantees.

    How r u guys doing- r u making your wife relax on the sofa???? I am praying for u guys too.
    Jen

  11. Hopeful- transferred the 3 best yest. Perfect 8 cell, almost perfect 8 cell and a 7 cell with minimal fragmentation. I am scared I want this to work so bad- but just no gurantees.How r u guys doing- r u making your wife relax on the sofa???? I am praying for u guys too.Jen

    Excellent news Jen! I wish that the amount of wishing you did would increase chances of success. I guess all you can do is be positive and hopeful, no matter how nerve wrecking it can be. I wish other people would understand just how much emotional and physical turmoil this process can put couples through. I'm so tired of my friends and family telling us to relax and be patient...The time will come when you're ready. Oh brother! We've been ready for almost 4 years! Oh well, they don't understand and I probably wouldn't either if I hadn't been through all of this. Anyway, I hope you are resting and eating and drinking all those baby making foods we read about. We will pray for you at church today. It's our 2nd week back to church after a few years off. My wife and I are trying so hard to show everyone that we can be better people and hopefully the best parents too.

    My wife has been resting, but it seems everytime we go out just for a little she leaks some brown goo or some light bright red spotting. No flows though. She also has been peeing like crazy. Last time we went to the doctor for our ultrasound they did say that her ovary was still pretty big...So maybe that's why she pees so much? I don't know. I just want to see a HB(s) so bad on Wednesday. Success rates go up quite a bit after a heartbeat is seen, right? Do flutters count as HBs? It will be 6.6 weeks (I think) on Weds. I really wish my wife could go on bedrest, but the doctors and nurses said that it wasn't neccessary. I guess they don't know how much my wife does. She does too much. I just keep on reminding her, no regrets, no regrets...Drink more water. Man, I'm a naggy husband huh?

    I have to go, but I'm looking forward to hearing those strong cells divide and implant for you. Jen, you deserve this and I hope you are blessed.

    Hopeful Husband (Aka, Dave.)

  12. Dave- noone can understand what u r going thru unless they have been there. Today on my way home I just cried, I can't help it. It is so emotional thinking of all the \"potential babies\" we have created and not seen thru this ivf process. People who don't do ivf have no idea- they just hope a sperm hits an egg- and they miss their period and then low and behold in 9 months they take home a baby. They have no idea the raw emotion of actually seeing your potential babies as 8 cells or multiple cells in a petri dish and getting a picture of them on day of transfer. They don't know what it is like to know u have life in your uterus after transfer and that u r just praying they choose to stay with u- or that your body chooses to accept them. They don't know the pain of seeing your baby or babies developing in your uterus week after week from 2 1/2 weeks after transfer and on- not knowing when the joy might end-or if disaster is lurking at every appt. The devistating pain when things go wrong is not something a \"fertile\" can understand- b/c we can't just jump back in the sac and do it again. The process of ivf although a miracle is also a hardship to endure.

    Make your wife rest as much as possible- make her take it easy- once u see heartbeats there is less than a 5-10% chance of something going wrong in the first trimester- and once into 2nd less than 5%. Of course if your wife ends up with 2 babies growing healthy in there it is imperative that she treat this as a high risk pg. Getting lots of rest, eating a ton to gain weight in the first and 2nd trimester. Drinking lots of water.

    I am so praying for u that your miracle baby(ies) continue to grow and develop as they should. I know u both want 1 healthy baby- and 2 will be a bonus. U will be awesome parents- church won't hurt u- I am a chrisian- baptist- but not strict- and I have often struggled with faith b/c of the things I have endured in life and fertility- sometimes it just doesn't seem fair. But I try to believe there is a higher plan- and I am not in control- and I must be thankful for the wonderful things in my life. My son being number one. I truly pray u soon know the love I have for my little guy, and the happiness your child or children will bring u.
    Jen

  13. We are crying. Bright red bleeding started dripping after getting out of the shower. This sucks. I called the nurse on call and she said she couldn't really do anything. Just put her feet up, rest and drink lots of water. Praying...Why would this happen to us again?

    The nurse told her to take off and call in an hour for an update.

  14. Hello antoine_t,

    My heart goes out to you.

    I was 20 weeks pregnant with twins when a huge clot came out and I was bleeding through.

    At 15 weeks, I had uterine contractions and all the doctors ignored me.

    Don\'t ignore anything.

    Keep your beautiful wife lying on her left side (increase blood flow to uterus).

    Read Dr. Barbara Luke's book on Preventing Miscarriages (I read this at 15 weeks and read her books on Pregnancy with Multiples). I owe my children's lives to her recommendations I took very seriously from the get go.

    Have your wife listen to her gut feelings.

    Spare on the side of caution.

    Above all advocate for your wife and your unborn child.....

    I wish you sooo much the best.

    Sylvia

  15. I'll have to check out this book. I called the nurse back after an hour passed. The bleeding has stopped and she told her to take tomorrow off. It was dripping down her leg. What is spotting? How much is spotting anyway? She said it was good that it stopped, but it's hard to tell without an ultrasound if everything is ok. She said we may have lost one baby, or it's resolving itself, but let's hope not. So, I think we are going to go in, for \"peace of mind\" or to be disappointed again. I'm not sure if I can go through another loss. My wife is sound asleep now after crying a bit. I'm trying to prepare myself for the worse possible news...Please God, help us rediscover hope.

  16. Dave- I am thinking about you and your wife today. I hope the u/s shows all is okay and maybe just a sch (subchorionic hemorrage) meaning a clot can form and bleed. Is she having cramping or just bleeding??? Is she doing suppositories?? I pray all is fine. Please let us know- jen

  17. Thanks for thinking of us. Just got home. Nothing really answered...I was afraid of that happening. The did an ultrasound and saw that baby 1 had a little flutter, measured 6 weeks but she could not see the fetal pole this time. As for baby 2, no HB, might be slower to develop, or possible it's vanishing...But not sure. There is a blood collection on the top of the uterus and she is not sure why there is blood. The blood continues to have sporatic spurts and is bright red. Not feeling good about all this. Trying to think of options and ways to deal with another let down. The nurses' eyes and words are reminding us a lot of the last miscarriage we had a year ago. That one went like 7 weeks and stopped developing. I need to figure out a plan, if things don't improve. Maybe adoption, maybe wait a year and do a FET, maybe a surrogacy (sp?)...Maybe God has a different plan for us.

  18. Dave- a flutter is a good thing. She needs to rest in the bed- bedrest, to help resolve this bleeding or clot- did the doctor not do u/s just nurse??? Sounds like a subchorionic hematoma. Baby b could just be behind - hang in there. Don't give up. One day ata time- but for now I think your wife needs to stay out of work. Praying hard for u both.
    Jen

  19. Dave- a flutter is a good thing. She needs to rest in the bed- bedrest, to help resolve this bleeding or clot- did the doctor not do u/s just nurse??? Sounds like a subchorionic hematoma. Baby b could just be behind - hang in there. Don't give up. One day ata time- but for now I think your wife needs to stay out of work. Praying hard for u both.Jen

    Thanks Jen. 26 days, Beta=56,814. The nurse said the doctor wants to see us on Wednesday, and we hopefully will see a strong heartbeat and/or find out how both are doing. This is going to be the hardest wait. Since my wife got home she hasn't bled yet. From the ultrasound it looks like a similar to this pic:

    images.google.com
    Not as big though. Hopefully, we will see something good for once. Thanks for the thoughts and keep the prayers coming. We continue to pray for you as well.

  20. this happens very commonly in pregnancy- her increasing beta number is a good thing- and since there is a \"flutter\" there has to be a fetal pole etc developed- they just didn't see it good. BEDREST_ that is what they should be telling her- that is what every person i know who has had a SCH has had to do to help resolve these and not compromise the pregnancy. Be your own advocates- have her rest rest rest, that is all she can do. the more she is on her feet i think the more it will bleed and be aggrivated. Things still look good- i am really praying for you- i really want ya'll to have a happy ending. A girl i posted with did bedrest for several weeks - she is now into week 10 and sch has resolved and baby is doing fine. Praying hard for you i really am.

    Jen

  21. this happens very commonly in pregnancy- her increasing beta number is a good thing- and since there is a \"flutter\" there has to be a fetal pole etc developed- they just didn't see it good. BEDREST_ that is what they should be telling her- that is what every person i know who has had a SCH has had to do to help resolve these and not compromise the pregnancy. Be your own advocates- have her rest rest rest, that is all she can do. the more she is on her feet i think the more it will bleed and be aggrivated. Things still look good- i am really praying for you- i really want ya'll to have a happy ending. A girl i posted with did bedrest for several weeks - she is now into week 10 and sch has resolved and baby is doing fine. Praying hard for you i really am.Jen

    She bled a little after the u/s but since then has not bled anymore. She has really been careful tonight about not doing too much and really bed resting. I'm so glad she's resting. I'm hoping and praying to God that you are right about it resolving itself. Do you think we will see a stronger HB on Wednesday? It will be 6weeks and 2 days then. Maybe we should wait? Not sure I can handle not seeing a good heartbeat. These faint, flutters, or one day heartbeats make me lose sleep in wonder. Plus, is it common that the fetal pole is not visible after seeing it a week go? I was really nervous about that. Thank you again for all the support and kind words.

  22. dave- i think where you guys are at just shy of 6 weeks 2 days- a flutter is awesome- i think you will see more on wednesday. I think maybe they just didn't get a good u/s the other day. If it has a flutter cardiac activity has commenced and everything should be developing. Remember it is a tiny little thing in there right now- and u/s distorts and is fuzzy. Keep her resting. Go to the u/s and keep us posted. SCH usually do resolve depending on the area- but usually it does require resting until it does go away and reabsorb.

    Jen

  23. dave- i think where you guys are at just shy of 6 weeks 2 days- a flutter is awesome- i think you will see more on wednesday. I think maybe they just didn't get a good u/s the other day. If it has a flutter cardiac activity has commenced and everything should be developing. Remember it is a tiny little thing in there right now- and u/s distorts and is fuzzy. Keep her resting. Go to the u/s and keep us posted. SCH usually do resolve depending on the area- but usually it does require resting until it does go away and reabsorb.Jen

    Jen- I sure hope so...I can't sleep. I'll be back later to report.

  24. Just got home from a 6.2 week ultrasound. Baby A had a heartbeat that measures 110-120. A little low, right? Baby B has a heartbeat, but not as strong (more like a flutter) and in a weird spot, close to uterine wall and hard to measure. We will probably get our numbers around 1:30ish. Thoughts?

  25. Dave- well it is still early and hard to tell heartbeats when you are trying to count on a little screen. But it is good that baby A has a visible countable heartbeat this early- some don't this early- so i think things are still good. Baby b may just have implanted a little later than Baby A. I know u guys are scared, hang in there, i really am truly praying every single time i open this thread that you have good news.

    MAKE HER CONTINUE TO REST- no more bleeding??
    Jen

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