Books for parenting boys

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  • Started by asbinilkumar ago.
  • Latest reply from milesrbinovski.
  1. Hi,
    I am looking for books on parenting boys. I have seen several (Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph, Raising Cain by Dan Kindlon, Wild Things Stephen James and even The Complete Idiot's Guide to Raising Boys). If you have read any of these, would you recommend it, or, some other book not listed here. Thank you for any recommendations.

  2. House of Testosterone was funny, quite true, but a light and fluffy read ...

    Michelle in NY

  3. i really enjoyed raising cain and i think there is a lot of truth to what he says (i have 3 boys). i have and have started the trouble with boys, but you just reminded me and i must have misplaced it somewhere (did i mention i have 3 boys?). i also have boys adrift, but i haven't read it.

  4. I bought Steve Biddulph's Raising Boys and loved it (but I only have one boy and he's 2yo)--easy to read and I loved the tips at the end about questions to see if your school is boy-friendly. Haven't read the others yet, but I'm currently working on The Female Brain (I have 2 girls too) and will move on to more boys books after I finish it, so I'm glad to see there are others that pilma recommends.

  5. Debi, i have one called pink brain blue brain that i'm interested to read- i'm imagining it goes into gender differences. although if i recall correctly, the author says there's very little to biology and tons to upbringing...

  6. Interesting question. I have a 2.5 yr old son and another about to be born any week now, so I have boy lit on my radar. My sister has read and recommends Raising Cain.
    That said, I recently read a review essay somewhere ragging on all the boy literature and boyhood studies genre, arguing that it legitimizes old-school gender differentiation, among other things. I'd be interested to hear others' thoughts on this, as I am still very new to the whole boy thing!

  7. Same with me - 2 boys which mean I never have time to read.

    I am about 3/4 through Last Child in the Woods; Saving Our Children from Nature Deficit Disorder - which I love!! It is not boy specific, but I really do believe that what the author (Richard Louv) is discussing is really important for boys - especially \"spirited\" boys.

    I am about 2 chapters into The Trouble with Boys; A Surprising Report Card on our Sons, Their Problems at School, and What Parents and Educators can Do by Peg Tyre and that is another one I would definitely recommend.

    Sitting on my bedside table I have a stack of books about child development and parenting that I just never seem toget to . The \"boys\" books I have bought based on friend's recommendations are
    Raising Cain - glad to hear you all like this one too
    The Wonder of Boys - What Parents, Mentors, and Educators Can Do To ShapeBoys into Exceptional Men

    Now I am off to Amazon to check ou Raising Boys!! What's one more book on my pile - some day I will have time to read all this...maybe when J and T are all grown up

    PS: mariaz - I can not believe you are so close - good luck!!

  8. pilma, that's interesting, because the author of The Female Brain goes through all the biological ways that women's brains differ from men, from the size of certain parts of it, to the way it's connected together, and how although they may accomplish the same objective they use different parts of the brain to do it.

  9. Dr. James Dobson has a book Bringing up boys. I love this book because it explains why boys do things differently then girls. And being a female I was amazed at how boys function so differently then girls.

  10. Thanks to everyone for the reccomendations. I only have one child, a boy, and let's just say, he is very spirited! I am going to look into Last Child in the Woods; Saving Our Children from Nature Deficit Disorder. My son loves being out doors, from the time he wakes up he is saying \"outside\", we live in the northeren US and it is still pretty cold outside. I cannot wait for warmer weather and show him all the great things \"outside\"!

    Thanks again!

    Congrats mariaz and good luck to you and your new baby!

  11. pilma, that's interesting, because the author of The Female Brain goes through all the biological ways that women's brains differ from men, from the size of certain parts of it, to the way it's connected together, and how although they may accomplish the same objective they use different parts of the brain to do it.

    well, i can't really critique the one i have as i haven't read it. but i frankly don't believe the premise - there is a ton of evidence that hormones have an effect on brain development even in utero - i suspect the author of \"my\" book doesn't have the biological background and/or chose to ignore it!

    would you recommend the female brain?

  12. Dr. James Dobson has a book Bringing up boys. I love this book because it explains why boys do things differently then girls. And being a female I was amazed at how boys function so differently then girls.

    in case the op or anyone else isn't aware, though, people should know that he is a fundamentalist christian and his books very much reflect that. he also recommends spanking and other techniques that aren't effective and, it can be argued, are harmful to children's development. not a generic how to raise boys book at all. imo

  13. pilma, I'm enjoying it so far, but I stopped to read \"The Late Talker\" before we go for our neurology appointment tomorrow (have a bunch of questions for him). I bought The Female Brain off a buy2 get the 3rd free. The reviews of it have not been particularly good from other scientists (Amazon), but as a lay person I'm enjoying it and I'm also reading Another Day in the Frontal Lobe right now.

  14. I have two boys and a girl all under 4. It's obvious to me there are some major differences, but I'm wondering, when do people have time to read? Where is this thing called time you speak of LOL?

    I have heard Raising Cain was good, I keep meaning to get it.....

  15. in case the op or anyone else isn't aware, though, people should know that he is a fundamentalist christian and his books very much reflect that. he also recommends spanking and other techniques that aren't effective and, it can be argued, are harmful to children's development. not a generic how to raise boys book at all. imo

    pilma, thanks for letting us know. I feel like there should be a warning if some authors have a heavy-handed approach. That's why I like to read the negative reviews on Amazon before buying books -- seems to be the only way to find out these types of things.

    This is definitely an interesting thread. I've been wondering which books I should be reading...

  16. eb, a therapist had recommended that book to me, and I was quite surprised that the library actually provides reviews of books as well (the catalog was online). It was after reading their review that I decided to try the Steve Biddulph book first. Jason's Bride, once the (in theory) kids go to bed, I read, and also I had a stomach virus last week and spent quite a bit of time in the bathroom.

  17. in case the op or anyone else isn't aware, though, people should know that he is a fundamentalist christian and his books very much reflect that. he also recommends spanking and other techniques that aren't effective and, it can be argued, are harmful to children's development. not a generic how to raise boys book at all. imo
    It is your opinion that spanking isn't effective because it works just fine in my home. And the op didnt asked for generic books she asked for books we had read on raising boys. And I read other books that are anti-spanking just to get tid bits of advice to try and be a better parent. I take what I like out of any book and leave the rest. imo.

  18. I just got \"The Wonder of Boys: What parents, mentors, and educators can do to shape boys into exceptional men\" out of the 15 cent bargain bin at the Goodwill and haven't read it yet, but looked through and it seems to have a lot of good info. I can't recommend it since I haven't read it, just another option to look at.

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